HOW DID YOU DEAL WITH PUTTING YOUR CHILD in pre-school?

Question

my son begins next week and am so scared for this change.

Answer 1

The anxiety is all yours, not your childs. He will be fine once he gets used to the new environment and routine, plus it is really good for him socially. He will make new friends and you will be amazed at the change in him after a short time. Our daughter loved it once she got used to it.

Another really good point; you will finally get some time out for yourself. You deserve this !!!! It will give you more time to recharge and then give him focused attention when he is home.

Oh, and when he tries to emotional blackmail you by crying and holding on to your leg when you are trying to leave, just go! The staff know what they are doing and as soon as you are gone, and he is distracted, he will be fine. It's hard at the start but he will quickly learn this is not going to work!

Remember, it is about him and his development. You will have to do it when he starts school ,and if you wait you might find it harder to do.

Take the plunge, for both your sakes. Good luck

Answer 2

i put them at In The Beginning the best christian child care center  

they have the best teachers/staff and are really caring

Answer 3

First of all realize how much fun he is going to have. Especially if this is his first school experience. He is gonna love it once he adjusts to it.

Look all kids have to go to school eventually - now is his time.

Pre school is very important -possibly the most important school year of all of them.

As for Mom -  remember all those things you liked to do but are hard to do with a child. Well now you will have this time to do them. You could get your shopping done, go to a coffee shop with a friend, anything really! Instead of worrying about the child go do something fun with a friend or your hubby!

It is hard to send them off to school the first day but its inevitable so relax and remember almost all kids love pre school (lots of other little guys to play with).

Answer 4

knowing that i would have time for myself... enjoy it...  resulting, in better parenting, of course...

Answer 5

if he does not go get out the chainsaw!

Answer 6

theres nothing to be afraid of....even though i am not a parent i know how ALL my brother and sisters went through pre-k.......well my sister didnt go........he will probably be scared the first day but then later on he will love going to pre-k....YUMMY FOOD!!!!!!!!!!....he will have lots of fun!!

Answer 7

As an Early Childhood Educator, I have had a lot of experience with Mums having to leave their children for preschool for the first time. Although I have no children of my own, I do see how difficult it can be for some Mums!

The important thing to remember is that your son will look to you to see what he should think about preschool. If you show him that preschool is something to be anxious and scared about, he will be anxious and scared. If you show him that it is fun and enjoyable, he will eventually feel that way also. (This is called Social Referencing - children reference their behaviour from their parents).

Make sure you are calm and not anxious when you take him. Help him settle in, then leave with a hug and a kiss. If he doesn't want you to leave/ if he clings - just go - make it quick. His preschool teachers will then be able to take care of it. You could probably also ring them while you are gone to see how he is.

Good luck and congratulations on this exciting new step in your son's life!

Answer 8

I dont...I homeschool. It is unavoidable I'm not sure I guess it's just something you take day by day.

Answer 9

I wouldn't be worried about it at all. He's gonna have a blast!

My daughter has been an only child all her life. She's 3 years old, and there aren't really alot of children amongst my family and friends, so she really missed out on socializing with kids her age.

She started preschool 2 days a week about a month ago, and her progress is amazing. She loves school, she talks about the kids and the teachers all the time, and she pretty much just came home potty trained! after 2 days! I have been trying to train her for months and it's been tough, but after 2 days in school...she just magically is trained.

Your son is really going to enjoy himself. The transition might be harder on you than it is him :D

Answer 10

I have no kids but my mom says when i went to preschool I cried and begged her not to send me, she thought the school staff were mistreating me in some way and changed my school, 3 preschools later she realized it was just me and my separation anxiety...haha he'll be fine

Answer 11

Trust your gut feeling.  If you're feeling scared, it might be your natural instincts affirming that something negative might result from sending him to pre-school.  Ya know, like kids being mean and teachers supporting the meanness of students while squashing a child's natural enthusiasm to learn.  

The best solution is to homeschool your child.  There are heaps of resources and support groups nationwide who can help you.