My Mum is 81. My Dad passed away five years ago. The relationship I have with my partner allowed me to move in with my Mum and care for her for a few years. My partner was looking after his own Dad who passed away a year ago.
I only have one sister and she lives a couple of hours away from Mum. Her husband is retired and is extrememly overweight, to the point of making it impossible for him to put on his own shoes and socks.
I'm happy to keep looking after my Mum and also to have her live with my partner and me next year when he retires.
The problem is - whever I need a break from looking after my Mother, I have a real lot of trouble getting my sister to step up to the plate and take a turn. Her excuse is always that her husband needs her too much. I get angry because it's almost like she is saying to me "your relationship doesnt matter, only mine does". I know this situation isn't going to change but the problem for me is the resentment I am beginning to feel. I need to say something to her but not quite sure where to start. She is older than me and has always been the "bossy" one. I love her and know that she loves me but I really need to find a way to make her understand.
Help?
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