HOW DO I GET OFF THE ADDICTIVE PERSONALITY ROUNDABOUT? I either rely on food, drugs or alcohol to survive!?

Question

I have an addictive personality and have rotated over 30 years between food, drugs & alcohol. I hate being fat so am now on the alcohol as then i am skinny. However not healthy! Single mum with teenager I want to set a good example (she is high maintainence) and don't want her to end up like me. Drugs are out of the question (car'nt afford them and mess with office work. How do I get off the food or alcohol roundabout??? Im sick of going to work hungover and spending my whole weekend drinking and sleeping. I want a real life like other people. My sisters and friends seem to cope without drinking everynight. I can go one night or two at the most. HELP!!!!

Answer 1

have you ever tried AA or OEA the have both closed and open meetings you would atleast get abetter understanding as why you do the things you do  

Answer 2

I'm sorry I don't have the answer, but I just wanted to tell you I am in the EXACT same situation right now.  I wish I could talk to you.  You sound like you are in the same desperate situation I am in.  I finally told a dr. I felt really depressed, and he prescribed anitdepressants, but I can't have them take effect because I can't stop drinking.  I wish I could talk to you in person.  When I read your ? I thought wow there really is someone else who goes through this.  Because I have friends and neighbors and such that I feel like are living, and I am not.  They drink with me occasionally, but then go back to thier lives while I keep on drinking.  I have 3 kids, I'm married, but I am so good at hiding everything.  Every morning I tell myself I am not going to drink that evening, but then I do.  Tonight included.  I don't know if this will at all be helpful to you, but just to say I know you really want to quit as do I, something else seems to take over.  And also I appreciated your ? and hope there is an answerer that can benefit us both.

Answer 3

We have to eat to live, but we dont have to eat too much to live.  

You dont need the alcohol or the drugs at all, they are simply a crutch unless you need medication.  I suggest that you start getting addicted to exercise and going out with your daughter.  Spend time with friends, as we all need them once the kids have grown up and gone.  Get into a good routine so that your weekends are fun and interesting for both you and your daughter.  Take some lessons in something that youve always wanted to learn but have never had the time to do.