HOW DO I TELL MY DAD??

Question

Ok so ive been dating this guy for about 3 weeks i knoe its not long but weve known each other for about a year now and just recently decided that we wanted to take it to the next level Im 15 he's 16 Im pretty mature for my age so i can do a little extra at times but my dad is still my dad and of course he has his own mind made up. Now there is no s*x going on at all neither one of us want that before marriage call us old school but that just something neither one of us are ready for. He's a really great guy very funny and we both want him to meet my folks and me meet his we want our relationship to be open with our parents and exspcially mines. The problem is is that my dad does not want me to date till im 16 and even though i could just wait to tell him till then i wouldnt feel right holdin it from him that long my mom knows but she doesnt want me hangin out with just me and him its weird but any way my dad doesnt to much care for me dating. I want this procces to go as smooth as possible. Im going to tell him i just need to know how do i start it off and if there are any dads that can give me tips how would u want you daughters to come to you with this information? I want my dad to see that i knoe what im doing and that im ready and i know what im gettin my self into and im willing to make it work and come 50 if he can come 50 with me and my bf agrees with me as well (also i tried to get my mom to tell him but she wont so that wont work she told me i need to tell him)

Answer 1

You definitely sound mature for ur age and ur bf sounds pretty decent.

Being respectful to ur body is not old school~ it's a really good principle and u should definitely hold on to.

It would certainly help ur dad cope with the situation better if u start having co-ed frds over to hang out. BEHAVE, let ur dad join in a few games, like pictionary or sth fun but not wild. and team him up with ur frds, then rotate partners and let ur bf be in his team~

then ask ur bf to be himself -- if he's respectful, well mannered, then he doesn't have to pretend to be nice in front of ur parents~

do that a few times and even invite just ur bf to hang out at the house, ask ur dad for permisson. then play board games with him.

then sit ur dad down and calmly ask him if he's notice anything different about u lately? happier? prettier? well, i have a very sweet bf now~ it's x*x :D keep smiling and then give him more information if he asks. Agreed, don't mention s*x. Tell him that even though it's a few months b4 u turning 16, u are ready. and then tell him that XX had a lot of fun with him and wants to get to know him better by coming over more to hang out around the house. i don't think that could do much harm...

tell him that he can tag along for movies and stuff and that u guy won't mind at all~ invite him to double date ~ :P since u mentioned that u are willing to do anything~~

show him less touching and just holding hands and smile a lot , talk alot to each other~~ they will calm them down.

Answer 2

you definitely sound mature for your age and congrads on wanting to be honest with your dad, i hope he sees that.

Good on you for knowing you are not ready for s*x weather it be before marriage or not your responsible enough to know that at the age of 15 with a new bf you are not ready....again i think you should tell your dad this too and i hope he see this a great moral that he has instilled in you.

But I think you need ot be honest, with him have your bf there with you and set up ground rules with your dad let him know nothing is going to change you still will live by the house rules, your not going to be having s*x, your grades wont slip, keep it positive and keep it so that your dad is still in charge and that hes not losing his lillte girl.

Good luck

Answer 3

I am a parent and your dad is just worried.  I do have an idea.  Why don't you have some friends over that are both male and female?  have a backyard barbeque and keep make sure everyone behaves well.  You don't have to introduce him as your boyfriend yet.  Introduce everyone as friends.  It gives your dad a chance to get to know him in a relaxed manner.  When your 16th birthday comes up your dad will basically know him and not a big shock to his system.  Your guy sounds like a nice young man.  I hope I helped.

Answer 4

I think you should just tell him straight up that you've got strong feelings for this guy and that he makes you really happy.  Tell him you really do value his oppinion cus he's your dad and that you want him to meet this guy to see how he feels about him.  Don't bring up the s*x issue unless he asks you, otherwise he'll think you have something to feel guilty about (which you don't).  I think if you come at him honestly he'll appreciate it more than if you beat around the bush about it.  

Don't say it at dinner time, and don't say it in the morning time either.  Those are easliy aggitatable times.  People don't wanna hear ground breaking news about their daughter starting to date, while they're trying to eat.  Sit him down, be dramatic about it if you want, whatever it takes to show him that you're serious about this situation.  

Hope that helps.  

Answer 5

Mature huh.......Look, I'm being brutally honest.  If you were as "mature" as you claim to be, you would be able to sit down with your dad and start the conversation by yourself.  If you think you're so mature, then prove it to yourself by talking to your dad about this matter in a calm and mature manner, without any help from random strangers on Yahoo.

Sorry, but I'm being honest here.  

Answer 6

Just be honest with your dad and tell him up front

Answer 7

First off, its not old school at all to not have s*x, thats you being smart! Unlike some other people. You have to tell your dad. You seem like one of the very few respondsibly teenagers left out there. Tell your dad whats going on, or you will have major bad karma. Be respondsible like I said. I may still be a teenager (14), but I know that bad karma will bite you in the butt. Go and tell, your only a year away from being 16 he has to understand. Good luck!

*Edit* one more thing it was SOO hard telling my mom that I had a boyfriend because I was scared too, but once I told her, everything was okay! Now I have more privlages like he can come over and stuff but of course Im not having s*x with either cause were smart! But yea, you see? good karma!

Answer 8

i'm only 24...but am I a dude and i know plenty of dad's, so...

The best thing for you to do is SOUND LIKE YOUR 40 when your talking to him.  Maybe you don't know what that is, but if you don't, find out.  lol

Basically sound super mature, even downplay your age a little bit cause I guarantee he is.  Don't let him know what you "feel", but let him know the truth of the situation and basically say what you wrote in the description for you question.  That your honestly mature for your age, and surprisingly enough your boyfriend is too and you wouldn't choose to be with or date anyone who isn't like that.  Maybe he realizes how much you like him too, he might be open too it.  

Most girls are just so passionate about their boyfriends that the dad just sort of gives in cause they see how much they're daughter is happy, so you could go with that approach too.  

anyway, good luck girly!

-gabe

Answer 9

What you can do is tell your dad you want to talk to him about something that's really important to you. Make arrangements tell him about how you feel about him. Be considerate about his views and be humble. Then maybe you can ask your dad if he can come to dinner sometime so your family can get to know him. good luck.