HOW DO U ASK..............?

Question

for money for a wedding gift if hey are going to give one?were not expecting but we have everything i.e a toaster! so just more of a hint then asking ...how would we go about this without sounding or meaning to be rude.

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Answer 1

We had a hard time with this as well, but sort of passed the word around to close family members.  I did finally break down and register for a few things, knowing there would be people who just had to buy a gift.  I registered for some fun things like roller blades, dumbbells and camping equipment.

For the most part, we did get a lot of cash and checks and no matter what you are going to have people who just go out and buy whatever they want that you probably won't need.  It's inevitable.  Good luck and just remember to enjoy your day!

Answer 2

Don't register anywhere or only register for a few things. Usually this would be a big enough hint. If you MUST request cash (please avoid it- I am sure you could find something you need to register for), the ONLY way to do it is politely through word of mouth by parents and wedding party ONLY when asked.

ADD: Registry info does not go with the invitations either, so no matter what you should be giving people close to you instructions for what to tell people if asked.

Answer 3

in my wedding invite we included a note explaining our theme which is irish we also noted our food  and how we would have a cash bar.  We also included a little note saying, we are registered at target and also we will have a wishing well for any cash donations to help witht he honeymoon, I asked around to friends and family they said it was well said and not greedy or rude! goodluck and dont worry about what people say! its better to have what you need then 16 toasters!

Answer 4

Ask for vouchers for nice stores that offer all ranges from kitchen to clothes to tents to pushchairs to hammers... eg (if you're in the UK) John Lewis, Next, Debenhams, Argos.

I've known a lot of people who ask for vouchers - its more polite than just cash - and it gives you the option of what you can spend it on...

Answer 5

Just don't register anywhere.  Then if people want to find out what you want, they'll ask you or your parents or whomever, then you can spread by word of mouth that you don't need things, but that cash would be appreciated.

You should never ever put anything in, on, or within ten feet of your invitations about gifts, monetary or otherwise.  You are inviting people to an event, not selling tickets to get in.

Answer 6

You can't ask that without appearing rude.  If you don't need any household items, just don't register anywhere and hope people give cash instead.

Answer 7

I've been to a lot of weddings, i always see them set up a "wish box" they"ll put their own wish list cards to every persons seat, it's the cards with they money holder in it, then everyone puts their cards in the basket or "wish box". The last 2 weddings i went to my friends got back over 1grand and helped pay a majority of the wedding off, and the one b4 that got back nearly 3grand and used the money to pay for their honey moon.  I think that would be the best way, without asking Best of Luck and Congrats : )

Answer 8

Money for the honeymoon works ie travel vouchers.

Answer 9

we did not put a wedding list in any invitations but when people asked what we would like we just said that as we live together already we do not need anything but if they would like to make a contribution toward our honeymoon it would be greatly appreciated. We actually received quite a bit and it was lovely

Answer 10

say you have everything you want except money lol

Answer 11

yOU CAN JUST SAY MONETARY GIFTS EXCEPTED

Answer 12

Sorry but that comes across as very greedy. All couples get s*** they don't need/want for their wedding. Accept it all then flog it on Ebay... :)

O.k. sorry for the greedy remark. Try registering for what you would really like at your local department store... :)

Answer 13

Tell people you are asking for only monetary gifts.  The last wedding I went to did that and no one complained about them being rude etc.  

Answer 14

It is concidered inappropraite to ask for money as a gift.  however, you only register for a few things and have your family by word of mouth let people know that you would rather recieve money than gifts since you do not need any more household items.... and many people give money anyways!!! we only recieved a few gifts and got a lot of money gifts!  

Answer 15

I have been to weddings before where it was money only. At the bootom of the invite they had a little footnote saying 'Wishing Well' gifts please or something to that extent. And then they had a little wishing well set up where people could put cards with money in it.

It is NOT greedy as some ppl are saying. Your guests would rather give you money than a gift you are not going to use. I am faced with this right now, me and my fiance have been living together for over 3 years, so the things we want are all very expensive, like a new mattress etc. Since we already have dishes and towels and stuff.

Best of Luck!!