HOW DO YOU DEAL WITH LOST OF YOUR CHILD?

Question

i lost my first son this past january 08 i was full term he was due in 3 weeks and then one night i was in some pain i thought it was just contractions but my baby was in trouble i don't no what to feel some times so i don't feel at all i miss him allot his name was nehemiah

Answer 1

did he die!?!?!?!?!?!? OMG i feel u girl. im soooooooooo sorry!!!!!

Answer 2

I'm so sry all u can do is remember the Good times and that he is in heaven.i feel ur pain my sis died in the past january also.

im so sry

Answer 3

My sympathy for your loss.  

That is such a tragic loss, it must be so hard for you to have carried to full term.  

I believe you need to allow yourself to feel the anguish of this.  There are stages to grief; denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance.    See where you fit into the grief process and get some professional counseling to help you sort out your feelings.

A baby is hope, future and joy, and to lose that, you feel 'hopeless' so to speak.    

My personal belief is that those spirits that choose us to be parents are only born through us.  To love another human being, without motive, is what springs life eternal, and other loves will replace our losses.  

Be brave, and know that love is the hope that births us all.  God Bless.    

Answer 4

I'm sorry to hear your lost and feel for you. I don't think the pain will ever go away. The only good thing about it is that he is with God now. My God bless you and your family in this time of sadness.  

Answer 5

I seriously think you should take it one day at a time. It will for sure take time to finish grieving. It's normal to miss someone how was inside of you for so long to just be gone. Have you tried a support system? Talk to someone and let them know what your going through. You may not ever get over it but do something positive about it. Wishing you the best!

Answer 6

You will never get over the loss of your son but you will be able to live with his memory in a positive way. Right now, you are probably still very sad about losing him and these feelings may give way to anger in some way--anger directed at yourself or at others. This is normal in the grieving process. Try to think of the positive things associated with your pregnancy-like when you found out you were pregnant, the first time you felt him. Laugh about when he got up under your ribs and you had to push him down, or when you were craving something. If you got to see him, keep this memory of the way he looked in your mind and close to your heart. Dwell on the good things but give it time. As time goes by, this will be your most beautiful memory. I'm sorry for your loss and hope that you will be alright. Good luck.

Answer 7

I am so sorry for your loss. The same thing happened to one of my cousins...she was full term, when to the Dr a week before due date, they scheduled for her to go in to have the baby in a week...the baby was perfectly fine...when she went to have the baby, she was dead...still born...so very sad..I always felt really weird about it cause we were both pregnant and she lost her baby and I had mine...so very sad..I am sorry and I personally think that a loss of a child will never go away, you just have to do things to remember how much you love your baby...