HOW TO MAKE MY HUSBAND MORE AMBITIOUS?

Question

WE WORK AT THE SAME JOB DIFFERENT POSITIONS I DO ABOUT 40-45HRS WEEKLY HE DOES MAYBE 25, I PAY MOST OF THE BILLS I TALK TO HIM ALL THE TIME ABOUT GETTING A BETTER JOB TO HELP WITH BILLS BUT ITS GETTING TO THE POINT I DON'T WANT TO BE BOTHERED. WE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER 6YRS 3 KIDS AND I CAN'T DO IT ALONE ANYMORE

Answer 1

You can make him.

This is like the question women ask how can I get him to love me lol! You can't lol. The only life you control is your own. You don't even control you child's life either. You can guide but you can't control or make.

He did not ask you to work 40-45 hrs a week.

I was doing about 36 while going to school also and it sucked.

But if he is not going to school and have a fame he should do some full time. Or you should ask to cut in your hours then lol.

If you lived alone it would be even harder becasue that is 1 less check. This is a petty issue in a way.

This is like a story my mom told me while she was in wal-mart about a wife who had 5 kids and complained that she was broke. A cashier looked at her and said um well you do have 5 kids you know. Lol! Kids cost money and people dont see that lol! Maybe you solutions was to have 2 or 1 kids instead of 3. But since you have 3 BOTH OF YOU GUYS SHOULD HAVE THE AMBITION TO TAKE CARE OF THEM LOL.

Woot!

And learn how to budget that money. Eat generic foods. Shop cheaply and look for bargains..

Answer 2

Well if you feel that you are doing it on your own now maybe you should divorce him?

Talk to him. Let him know how you feel. You can not expect different results from doing the same thing all the time! Something has to change, and you need to let him know that.  

Answer 3

I think he should leave the wife like you because you are not helping him beside you are getting online take other advise to break your relationship. This is first step toward divorce and ending ur relaitonship.  

1.   Think with your head did u made a wrong decision you dont belive in your decision because when you married that fool he was like that and if u try to change a person and then love him that means u dont love them

2. One should never love someone who try to change you. If they love u the way you are thats good.

3. Their are other way to explain things tell him on his face that you work so hard and you want him to work hard too so our kids can have better future. Give him soft warmings (dont make it sound like a threat)

4.  if u doing 40 to 45 start doing more hours and stop spending time with him make him realize on his own that you have to work so hard to run the house thats why u cant give him time. He will eventually complain if he loves you. if he is just idiot who dont love their wife after 3 kids and wont change after warnings then still

Give him one last chance

start living seprate dont divorce.  Think of your kids

Divorce = Infection which passess on for generations.

ppl dont think these ways. You will divorce infront of ur kids what influence u make on them that when u cant solve problems divorce is the solution? wrongggggggg

What kind of father or mother divorce ifront of their kids and then expect their kids to have good married life. ?

Sorry if i have hurt ur feelings and whoever dont agree with me can goto h**l.    I have ruined my life and i just dont want other to ruin it.  Thats why i get sensitive on divorce topic. Why wife didnt gave me chance But if i can save someones marriage nothing could be better then that.

Remmber people Bitter words spread more faster then polite ones.

How many good momments you remmber with your husband?

count them write those days hours minutes that equal to life

rest is h**l

make those h**l momments nice also the key is compromise. not to give up.

Answer 4

Get rid of him. You will not change him, no matter how much nagging you do.  In fact, nagging makes men more resistant.  Being passive will not help either because he will take this as you accepting his ways.  

If you have already sat down calmly and talked to this knucklehead,  another talk  will not help either because it obviously has gone  through one ear and out the other.   And you will get sick of it, if you are not already.  Think of it this way: if you were a manager and you had an employee that kept making costly mistakes, even after you told them over and over what to do and what not to do, would you keep them around??  I certainly would not.

Besides, your husband is a grown a$$ man who SHOULD understand his responsibilities as a husband and as a father.  It is not your job to point it out to him.

We women need to stop making it easy for these men, we need to stop trying to mold them into men--to pick up where their mothers left off, or to redo everything that their mothers have done.

Answer 5

What has changed that you can't do it alone anymore?  Seems to me with 3 kids you are in for the long haul.  Divorcing him would only mean you would have to do it on only 40-45 hours of pay and no help at all from him.  I think you are stuck.  Some people are just lazy.

Answer 6

Kick his *** to the curb.  My sister and I have had the same kind of men and there is no way to make them more ambitious.  They want a sugar momma and you are it.  You can make it on your own, now it is time to do it.

Answer 7

Ah yeah, when there was that promising guy who was going to have a career but you chose your husband over him, because you were so much in love with him, that is where you went wrong.

Women like to have children with a******s and then have nice guys take care of them, that is what you need to do now.

Get yourself a nice man who is willing to take care of your three children with the a******s genes and you will be ok, most women do that

Much luck

Answer 8

It looks like you need to teach him some hard reality...stop doing every and pass the torch!

Answer 9

im sorry but if u love someone enough to marry them why would u want to change them at all.  I take it he has always worked roughly the same amount of hours.  I can understand the stress your under but cant u sit down an talk to him an tell him how ur feeling and the thoughts that are running thru ur mind and see what he says, and maybe once he realises just how it is all making u feel it will make a difference.  Just because u would like more help with paying the bills doesnt necessarily mean that u want him to be more ambitious, just for life to be more fair and equal.  

Good Luck

Answer 10

You tell him that he is doing excellent haoever gets tired so soon.

Answer 11

Just living alone for awhile may be a solution.  Divorce is very hard on kids, so don't let it get nasty.  Save some money and get a place and leave until he realizes what he has lost.  I did, but I found I was a lot happier on my own and I never went back.  I now have a wonderful man who is as ambitious as I am!