HOW can i accept who I am?

Question

I'm 16 and very insecure. It's been a year now and i want it to stop. When I'm out in public, i always fix my hair [its a habit now] and i care a lot what others think about me. I tired of putting myself down and comparing myself to those popular pretty girls..how can i accept who i am? any stories i can relate to? thanks!

Answer 1

um u should just try not to care what ppl think about u as long as u have friends it shouldnt matter i know how u fel but now i dont even have friends..... ~xoxo ally*

Answer 2

im a lot like that too. im kinda more nervous out in public. i just make myself do it and its gotten a lot easier. you have to make yourself do things like going out in public (if that bothers you) and look straight ahead not down. and try thinking about the positives about yourself when you see others girls instead of ' they're so much prettier than me'. and maybe even try therapy. it'll help with self confidence. and being popular won't really help them later in life.   :)  i wasn't popular either. im home schooled now so i don't have to worry about that, but at recess when i was younger, i would just walk around or sit until it was over because i didn't really have ANY friends. you just gotta stop thinking about other people so much. you know sometime if people are starring at you, you might think there's something wrong like your hairs messed up or something. but maybe some guys think you're cute and some girls are kinda jealous.  i know that that isn't %100 sure, but its still possible. and if your doing things, like getting something from the store that someone asked you to get, just focus on getting that and nothing else and it'll get easier to be out in public without worry about what other people might be thinking about you. its gonna take some work and its not gonna happen over night but it will happen. just give it time and **** luck!

Answer 3

i just think about all the times someone asked for my number or asked me out and i rejected them.

Their pain makes me feel beautiful  

Answer 4

It is funny because when I was your age I was very thin but was always worried about my body. I had no b***s and was 105 lbs. But now when I look at my pictures I wish I had that body again. I learned to love myself when I realized if I don't love myself for who I am; NO ONE WILL!

Everyone is beautiful in their own way. Inside and out...and I know that sounds corny but it is the truth.

Why don't you write down 5 things you love about yourself and 5 things you can work on...

Keep a journal...

Tell yourself everyday you are beautiful

Last: there is probably someone who looks at you and wish they were you!!!

Answer 5

im a guy and i have almost the same problem. when the other muscular buff guys are there, i feel so small and useless. I feel like the girls will completely ignore me. but i keep reminding myself that everyone is special in their own way, whether its a talent or your looks. i may not be that big, but i know I'm talented and that my talents can ensure me a good future. everyone has good and bad points, maybe your smart? the popular girls may have that perfect form and hair but at least you know that you can be a lawyer or a doctor in the future and not just a common s**t. always remember your special. and never forget what your good at.  

Answer 6

WHAT I DO:

go out and buy a full sized mirror. Stand infront of it, and think of every girl who has ever complimented your hair, body, clothes etc. Look up to her? Then think of every guy that has ever liked you. Any cuties? Look at you from what THEY see.  I bet its a whole lot better then how you see youself. Im not super skinny, but i have some great curves, that im proud of. I might not be the prettiest girl in the world, but ive gotten tons of modeling offers. Take everything bad you see about you, and turn it into something good. Stop thinking about the bad, and youll forget about it.

Answer 7

Please don't take this offensively, some people do.  I really don't mean it in a bad way, but i think you should see a counsoler.  They can help you and talk through things with you.  My sister is very very insecure too, she is going to be 14.  I've never seen her like this, she always thought she wasn't any good, and that she was "too fat" to join dance, even though she's done it for years and was in love with it.  My parents even noticed how different she was.  She tried not eating, and she also tried to "be cool" and hang out with people who she shouldn't have been anywhere near seeing as three out of the five of those kids went to juvie!! I told her that she needed to eat more, and she wouldn't.  I tried taking her shopping for new colorful cute clothes, she just wanted to wear black baggy tee shirts.   Then i finally got her to talk to the school counsoler, and over time she got better.  It was like she was a new person when i visited her from collage.  Now she has the courage to stand up for herself and take self pride.  She has friends that she loves and is an all around better person.  She started danceing for me and my parents and is planning on joining dance next time around again.  I'm so happy for my little sis.  Hopefully you too can seek help when you need it, and start living a life where you enjoy every second of it!!!

=] hope this helps. and good luck!

Answer 8

Focus on your inner beauty, and your smile will get more radiant, your eyes will light up, your hair will bounce... it all starts on the inside. :)

Check out this site:

http://www.meant4more.com/

Answer 9

Myself i have experience some insecurity during my teenagers years and pretty much everyone does. Personally, i think it usually happens when you are trying to find out who are as a person or something or someone has you questioning yourself as person.

Neither less when that happens you have to remember that in order for other people to love you or to accept you, you have to first love and accept yourselves. Also you have to remember that you are a special person inside.

And God had made one of you, that is how unique and wonderful you are.

So if you remember those things then, you should be fine.

good luck:)