HOW to win my husbands PRIDE?

Question

How do i win this battle? a battle that i have to fight with my husband over his pride? i want him to fight for my pride instead of me for his. i want him to beg me to stay home or wonder all the time what im doing...help how can i do this?

Answer 1

Have you gone LOCO?  Once this starts you will hate it and start to feel like he is controlling. Be careful about what you ask for.

Answer 2

You can win your husband's pride by being manipulative.  That's the short answer.

If you need your husband to beg you to stay home, or wonder what you're doing, then what you're really doing is wanting power over your husband.  Power to have his full attention whenever you want it, to be noticed.  The irony is that if he doesn't beg and wonder about you to the degree that satisfies you, you feel powerless if you don't have his attention.  Therefore, you're really giving him the power anyway by "needing" his validation.  If you "need" his validation and don't get it, you lose.  

A better plan would be to have your own self-esteem and not NEED validation from your husband or anyone.  Who knows, your husband may even respect you more and choose not to fight over pride.

Answer 3

why are you trying to make him jealous?  That isn't pride

Answer 4

Wouldn't you rather have your husband's love and respect? Try talking with him honestly about your feelings. Use feeling statements and rephrase things you don't understand ("I feel" "I think" "What I'm hearing is") rather than accusations, and have an idea of what you'd like to see happen to solve your problem.

Answer 5

You sound like you want to be controlled, or possessed.  The two should become one sort of thing..   In reality, if you let him live and he let's you live, then we all live happily ever after:) and it's more fun:)  Anytime you put fight in a sentence there is a negative presence....wouldn't you want peace and not war.

Answer 6

Bring home a cute friend (girl)  and share her with him. He'll be so proud, he'll tell all the guys at work about how great his wife is. He'll be one proud guy!

Answer 7

I don't think you can. You have nothing to be proud OF.  

Answer 8

you cant.

Answer 9

Get Naked

Answer 10

I'm gonna say you have 2 options:

1)Talk to your husband, tell him you feel unappreciated. I'm not married myself, but i believe a good marriage is built trust and communication.

2)Calm down! Some people have different ways of expressing thier love, I mean, he married you which is like him saying : "I love you so much I want to be with you all the time for the rest of my life". All you need to do is look for the love everyday (That sounded so cheesy but...yeah...) Hope it helps  

Answer 11

he is not going to because he is a man : once u stop showing  him u want it so bad then he'll do it  

Answer 12

You need to have fun.  Don't have fun for revenge though.  Just have fun.  It will take your mind off what he is doing.

Don't worry about your husband going out and doing things as long as he is meeting his domestic responsibilities.  Don't ask him what he's doing either.

Go out with your girlfriends and have a good time.  If you want, keep him wondering and don't tell what you did or are going to do unless he specifically asks.  Then tell him.

Most important though.  Be happy and have fun.

Answer 13

What in the HE--- are you talking about? You need some counseling honey. Seriously.

Answer 14

You can't your husband is not as insecure or jealous as you are.

Answer 15

that's not pride, that is you being insecure

Answer 16

Sounds like you are a little insecure. And I agree with the above answer, you dont want him to have pride, you want him to be jealous.

Some wives would love to have a husband that had full trust and let the leash out a little so they can have a life and friends outside. Maybe you should try looking at it as him being a very considerate and trusting husband rather than being upset that he doesnt mind if you leave the house. Having a suspiscious and controlling husband is suffocating. Consider yourself lucky.

Answer 17

are you serious??? you want your man sittin at home paranoid about what you are doing??? lady i have been that guy, but trust me it was only for a HOT second...and i can promise you this: I WILL NEVER BE THAT GUY AGAIN.

it sounds like you want to be with someone who doesn't trust you. i think you would have an easier time finding some random joe off the street, because I bet if he hasn't known you for ten seconds, that he wouldnt trust you.

I think you have insecurity issues and the need to feel "wanted" by your man....THIS IS YOUR PROBLEM, not his.

Answer 18

just give him a ********.  That should help

Answer 19

I have no idea what you're talking about.   If you want him to get down on his knees and BEG you for your love, you're crazy.   That's not how men work.

You need to read Dr. Laura's The Proper Care of Feeding of Marriage.