HOw can i become less quiet and more talkative ?

Question

I know your probably gonna say dont be something your not or something in that range but i really need your help . i talk aroud my mom dad grands and bro. i talk to grown up but when i comes to teens like me or kids and my cuzzins and friends and class mates i get quiet. one of the reasons i because i have nothing to say or i dont know what to say at the time ! i have a hard time jumping into convercations and i guss im afraid they may think i sound funny for deciding to come out ! well my cuzzin wanted me to come over to her house for a party shes having and she probably wants me to talk to her because she keeps bugging me so has everyone else about talk and it gets on my nerves thats another reason i dont talk so much !!i really need your help and if possible ill give the best answer 15 pts.

Answer 1

you can only give the best answer 10 pts...don't lie.

In regard to talking more it all comes down to being comfortable and relaxed.  No one can make you more relaxed in a setting but the best thing to do is to put yourself in situations you aren't exactly comfortable with and getting used to it all...just go talk to people, listen and add in as applicable.

good luck.

Answer 2

really there isnt a way to solve this problem which really is a problem bacause i used to be really shy. all you have to do is just go at it! start talking. dont think about it because if you do you will change your ming so just start talking to people no one will think you sound funny or anything like that but just start talking to people come to them and say hi in school its a great way to start conversations is just to say i love your ...... where did you get it. and just take it from there. the party is a great way to start talking because what ever happens you probebly wont have to see these people ever again good luck you will be much happier if you over come your shyness i know i did

Answer 3

Well you have an advantage to people who jump into a conversation without listening first.  Most people like you are good listeners.  When there is a lull in a conversation ask a question about the conversation. It helps because people like to talk about themselves.  When another lull happens jump in and relate your experience on the same topic without getting away from the subject.  I hope this helps.

Answer 4

Yeah its all about comfort, you can speak your mind out to close friends and family because you know them and are much comfortable with them. But when it comes to other people you don't really know around your age you don't know them well and are not very comfortable with them. I am like that and I am trying to change. Just speak more speak first and set the tone with new people you meet that you are a speaker and you will always talk around them. It also helps when  people introduce me to a new friend, when this happens I can easily talk to them. And it is also easy to talk to people out of the country. Just notice your problem which is you are not talking a lot because you fear what people might think of what you say, write some goals down to accomplish day by day and do it. Just think of all the stupid things people you know say, does anyone ever say hey that has got to be the stupidest thing I've ever heard someone say. No they don't say anything they usually keep it to themselves.

Answer 5

I had the same problem when i was younger and it has really kept me from a lot of things, like friends and relationships or just speaking up for something I feel strongly about.  Don't be afraid to talk and don't even be afraid of sounding stupid or whatever just do it.  Just think about when other outgoing people around you talk, do you think they sound stupid?  Don't you want to be more like them.  The more you speak up and talk, the more comfortable you will be.  The first few times your heart may beat faster and your face may even turn red but the more you do it these things will subside and then more people will want to talk to you because you will be more approachable and have more friends.  When you are quiet and shy and don't talk people just think you are s****. and stuck up and don't want friends.  So just try it, who cares what people think about you anyway, there is so much more to life.  Good luck.