HOw do we tell my step kids that I am pregnant?

Question

We have 2 step kids 5 and 10 years old. I am at the beginning of a pregnancy and I am looking for material or ideas of telling the family. Not just the step kids but also my husband's family (my mother in law hates me and says horrible things to me to my face).

What are other's experience? We want to do the right thing, at least by the kids.

Answer 1

Hang on.... Your husband permits his mother to say horrible things to your face?? That is unacceptable. YOur hubby has to let his mom know you are ALL a package and if she doesn't want one of you she doesn't get ANY of you.. As for the kids.. Tell them, include them as much as possible an let them know their daddy will always adore them.

Answer 2

By walking up to them and go "I'm pregnant!" and Taa daa

Answer 3

You and your husband are going to have to sit the 2 kids down and tell them that you love them both very much and now their going to have a little brother or sister and that having this baby won't change how much you love them.As for the Mother in-law I wouldn't say a thing not even when you are starting to show and if she has anything to say about it just say why can you can say some more sh^T to me.

Where your husband when all these horrible things are being said to you,does he know about it if so he need to step up like a man for once and tell his mom to back off of you or you won't see me or your grand kids anymore. The step kids might not be around when the mother in-law is saying all this but their not dumb they know somethings wrong and it has to be putting a big damper on your marriage which isn't any good for you the kids and the baby inside you.  

Answer 4

Break it up happily. go up to them and say. "Mommy's got good news, we're getting a new baby, yay." If there not that happy wel then I don't know.

Answer 5

I would say that you and your hubby should sit the kids down and let them know. Be open to any questions they may have about the baby.

As far as your MIL who cares I would just send a birth announcement to her and anyone else you may need to tell be don't want to hear the reaction. Be as stress free as possible.

Congrats and good luck  

Answer 6

Your pregnant and you and your husband are proud of it, make the kids proud of it to as they are going to have a step bother or sister. Sod the husbands family if they dont like it thats their problem its nothing to do with them.

Sit the kids down in the evening and tell them im sure they will be over the moon!

I wish you all the best

Answer 7

I suppose it depends on the kind of relationship you have with your step children.  Its important they they dont feel pushed out by the fact that their daddy is having another child.  The best way would be to make them feel like they are part of the pregnancy, i.e if you have had your scan then giving them both a picture of the baby on a personalised card for them, so that they feel like a part of the new babies life.

As for your mother in law, I would raise the issue with your husband.  You shouldn't have to listen to that and your husband shouldnt just stand by and let it happen.  She will be the one to lose out in the end because your new baby will grow up knowing how horrible its nanny is to its mother.

I hope all goes well, good luck xx

Answer 8

just tell them straight out they deserve to know.

Answer 9

ask him how they would feel (hypothetically) if they got a new sibling. f-u-c-k your mom inlaw, if she doesnt like you then she doesnt need to see your kid right? do the kids like you? just come right out and say it.