Had a really crazy and depressing dream last night?

Question

Last night my fiance was being kind of a jerk before he went to bed. He doesn't seem to want to have s*x with me at all now (I'm 6 1/2 mo pregnant) :( . Anyway, in the dream, it's like there are 2 of him-the him that he is now, and I guess the him I wanted to be with or something..because I chased the "him I want to be with" (he was leaving and I guess was going to kill himself?) And I said, "Well..do you want to have s*x..?" And he acted all irritated and annoyed and was like, "Ugh..I guess?" and then I was just sad and woke up and it made me want to cry. I mean, I know it was just a stupid dream, but it really hurt my feelings because that's kind of how I feel in real life-like I'm chasing him and chasing him and he doesn't want to do anything with me. Has anyone else been having any depressing dreams like this and if so, does it in any way connect to how you feel in your everyday life?

Answer 1

Hi. Sounds like you are really hurt by your boyfriend's rejection. You should really talk about it with him. During pregnancy, all men react differently. Some have a higher libido, some have a lower one. It may just be that he's afraid to hurt the baby or something like that. Talking to him may help. If he doesn't want to have s*x, he can still give you tenderness, caresses, etc....

Good luck sweetie.

ps : as for the dreams, I dream WAY much more now that I'm pregnant. Good dreams, bad dreams... I dreamt I was trying to breasfeed my baby the other night, and I just couldn't and she was starving. That was awful. I guess we are going through so much emotionaly and hormonaly...

Answer 2

My husband is the same way.  He NEVER wants it when I'm hugely preggo.  He says he doesn't feel comfortable with the 'third party'.  He doesn't do anything except grab me and tries to get me to help him out.  I get annoyed, hurt and really angry.  Most of the time I avoid him now and he's acting all worried.  We got like this before our daughter was born in 2006 so I guess it'll work out again.  He's trying to get my attention by getting me things and doing things for me, but this time I've been ignoring him.  The house seems a lot cleaner lately LOL.  The thing is, after the baby is born you will lose your hormones within a few weeks and you can have s*x again and he'll be all over you.  Some men just get weird when a baby is in there.  Maybe you should tell him how you feel and tell him some things that may make up for it like massages, flowers, etc.  He may get the drift.

Answer 3

pregnant dreams are weird but it is hormonal and will go you need to take hom to dr. he may be affraid of hurting you have your dr explain your fine and it wont hurt you or baby mine felt like the baby would see him

Answer 4

I've had some crazy ones to very very vivid. Most of my dreams are like that where they relate to my everyday life, and kind of feel like they are real. I had one about my brother which is not living his life right at all, and I am religious but not very. but the devil is after my brother and I want to save him. it was very crazy and had me upset for a few days. I think its the hormomes we have being pregnant.