Had child from affair?

Question

i am 22 and have been married for two years. i married my boyfriend from high school and love him to death. i work as a medical assistant and was really attracted to this doctor. this doctor is 35 and is muscular, handsome, tall and nice. we ended up sleeping together for a while, and i became pregnant. my son has to be this doctors, he looks just like him. my husband doesnt know. i really do love my husband, this doctor was a short time thing and i didnt mean to get pregnant by him. i will never do it again.

i know what i did was wrong, but something in me tells me --i dont know--but i get a good felling knowing i had a child with such an accomplished doctor. and then i start to feel bad--i am confused

my husband has no idea --should i just let it go and never tell him and live my life? its over with the doctor--and i want to stay with my husband

Answer 1

I can't answer this, but it sounds like this might do great damage to your conscience. You might consider telling him, many women and men are having affairs today. Some men are okay with it.

Answer 2

Strategic Standpoint - Don't tell him

Moral Standpoint - That is really horrible, no offense.    lol    I know eveybody makes mistakes but that is a doozie. It is quite cruel to let him go on thinking it is his kid forever and really be paying for someone else's child. And a doctor to boot who has the financial means to take care of a child. I shudder to imagine your husband toiling away at work 50 hours a week to pay for someone else's child and a wife he loves and thinks is faithful to him. Again, no offense intended.

Answer 3

just dont say anything too many fragile lives at stake, and too many emotions and drama. ugh. just live the lie we all live it anyway.

Answer 4

Dont tell him he will never forgive you! Would u forgive him if had done the same to you, probably not so just keep ur mouth closed and dont say a word.

Answer 5

Okay, you are in a really hard situation.  First off, as you admitted, you should have never had an affair with this doctor while being married.  It was wrong.  However, it is not right letting your husband believe that this child is his whenever it really is not.  Also, this doctor probably would like to know, (if he has not figured it out already) that he has a child.  The truth is going to come out some day.  I say you need to tell the truth.  However, do not expect the doctor to welcome you and the child with open arms if your husband happens to leave you.  The doctor was just in it for the s*x.  He may want to provide some financial support, but there is a total social gap there (I work in the medical field, I know) and although many doctors have affairs with their staff, they would never actually get together with them.  I am sorry, I just wanted to shoot it to you straight.  Good luck.