Had unprotected s*x 2 weeks ago and I've missed my period, I'm only 13! How can I get rid of it?

Question

Right, In the name i just generalised it. Its my friend who did it, and no I'm not saying that just because I'm embarrassed, because your all strangers, i wouldn't care to be honest, it is my friend. She's not telling anyone else Except me and i really want to try and help her. She did it 2 weeks ago and she's just found out today she's missed her period. I know shes stupid. I've toldher she's stupid. She did this before about a mont hago and she needed to go and get the pill done but that only worked if it was less than a week afterwards. Now she doesn't know whether she is or not and she's going to do a test on the weekend, but if she really is pregnant, is the only option abortion? Because she can't have that pill again. I'm not clued up in this subject at all. She's an idiot. But what can she do? Can she have that pill again?

Answer 1

Your friend seems to be quite young to have such a lot to worry about. She needs to seek some counseling. If abortion is what she chooses, most "honest" abortion clinics will offer her counseling before and after. I'll admit I'm pro life, but each woman has to make her own choice and live with it.

Since you mention she hasn't taken a test, she may NOT be pregnant! Stress can cause you to be late as well. Does she have any symptoms?

One thing that comes off kind of harsh is referring to a BABY (human life) as an "IT." The IT has a heartbeat if she's already a week late :(

Depending on where your friend lives, she may HAVE to tell her parents about the baby and have permission to have an abortion. If she's not pregnant, but thinks she's old enough to have a physical relationship, she needs to be responsible enough to get birth control.

Answer 2

chavtastic, what's with kids these days, when i was 13 i thought just kissing a girl was odd.

I mean i used to watch films with peeps kissing in and thought eww..

Kids these days not satisfied with pokemon and chuppa chups.

what sad times we live in.

Answer 3

WHAT THE HE**!!!! NOW A DAYS 13 YEAR OLDS HAVE s*x??? omg!!! don't do abortion!!! atleast have the baby adopted! and if she is scared to tell her parents she needs to walk to a drug store and buy a test, drink a WHOLE LOT and then see. and tell her s*x is wrong until marriage! you can wait! i waited and there is NO regret!

EDIT: Kids now a days! what is wrong with them? who the he** is the father? he wont know what the f**k to do!

yet another edit: your so sweet to be helping your friend in her time of need! your a real sweetheart i was not yelling at you i was yelling at you stupid friend, she needs to think about having s*x before doing it.

ha ha ha! your the one who called her stupid in the first place

Answer 4

She cant have the pill because you have to take it pretty soon after  not 2 weeks. so the options are abortion, give it up or keep the baby.

Answer 5

Has she taken a pregnancy test, if she hasn't then i suggest she should.

Also, she should go and speak to her doctor about it.

If she could cope with it mentally and wants to then i don't see a problem in her getting an abortion as she has her whole life in front of her and needs to get her qualifications not sit around looking after a baby, she's too young for that.

Or, if she doesn't want an abortion she could give it up for adoption.

Also, it may be a good idea for her to seek some counselling.

You really should tell a relative about this, this is not something a 13 year old can handle on her own, keeping quiet about this will more than likely do more harm than good.

You may want to make sure she knows about safe s*x and the responsibilty of it.

EDIT:

It's all very well people saying don't abort but they aren't the ones who are 13 years old having a kid who's father may just run off leaving her on her own, where a child will struggle looking after a child.

In some cases, depending on the type of person you are, having a baby will not make you any more responsible.

EDIT:

Perhaps she didn't get any s*x education at all, therefore she couldnt be an idiot, just some one that nobody took the time out to explain any of this stuff to.

Answer 6

Poor baby,

Tart of a mother.

I truly despair.

Answer 7

well put it this way i wouldnt want to be mates with some one ike that !!! she doesnt even know for sure yet when shes 100% sure so when she is she sure if she is she needs 2 grow up and have the baby and pay the price of being to young for s*x, babies are what happens when you have s*x if youre old enuff to do it ur old enuff to take responisibilty

silly silly girl ( not u)

Answer 8

Well if she doesn't want the baby there is adoption!!

Abortion is not the answer!! The baby is a human being to you know!!

It has a hearbeat!! Fingernails!! Just like us!! That is like taking a newborn baby and stabbing him/her until they are dead!! But it's her choice. Besides that could lead to health problems!! And emotional issues!! Well she better make sure to think it over before she actually does something that she will regret.. Personally I think she shouldn't had had unprotected s*x in the first place!! She is so young.. and not grown to understand things.

Answer 9

isn't that great 13 year olds having s*x!!! You think you are old enough and mature enough to have s*x well why is she asking what to do now she is obviously mature enough to take care of her child isn't she. Stu*** imature 13 year old have s*x then they get pregnant don't know what to do and then they ask for advice. Aren't they suppose to know this alredy if they are already having s*x

Answer 10

lol

Answer 11

Hi Kat - first up, she needs to go to the docs to find out if she IS preg or not. A quick pee test or blood test will tell her.

If she IS preg then her doctor will talk through her options with her, including having abortion. You may be allowed to go with her if you wanted to give your support, as youre doing a grand job so far :)

If she ISNT preg, for heavens sakes lay into her about being so irresponsible! Having a baby isnt a game. Im 28 and trying for my first and am worried about stuff like money etc, for a 13 year old to be playing around is scarey

FINALLY: Youre obviously a brilliant friend for standing by her and helping her out. I hope everything gets sorted out.

My little sister is 14 and I cant iumagine what Id do if it was her in this situation. Good luck to you and your friend xx

Answer 12

Yea if she doesnt want to keep this baby at this late stage abortion is the only option. You need to talk with your friend and tell her that she shouldnt be having unprotected s*x at her age, if shes too embarrased to get the lad to wear a condom she should AT LEAST get herself put on the pill and she wont have to have her parents permission if thats what shes worried about. she needs to buy herself a home pregnancy test, you need to be there for her she'll be absolutely terrified atm and could do with a good loyal friend, you've done the right thing and got advice well done you and good luck to your friend x*x

also like to add to the people slagging her off yeaa she made a mistake a stupid one but shes human and she'll learn from it, and if she lives in the UK she can get an abortion without parental permission if the doctor thinks shes mature enough to understand what shes doing, lay off her will you x

Answer 13

Now then girls i want you to listen to me very careful, You need to talk to someone about this immediately, there  must be a relative, aunty, or your mums close friend, Talk to someone tomorrow, DO NOT EVEN THINK ABOUT ABORTION, YOU WILL REGRET IT THE REST OF YOUR LIFE, You will be wandering was it a boy or a girl etc, If you was my Daughter i would be angry, but i would support you 100%. if the result is that your not pregnant PLEASE dont have s*x until your older and use precaution. Take care xx

Answer 14

i think you are 13 and in need of a lot of attention that is why you are asking these questions i read your list of questions an they are all dumb

Answer 15

i think the best thing to do is to give the baby up for adoption if she is Good Luck

Answer 16

Well, first she needs to find out if she is actually pregnant or not.

Secondly, if she is, she needs to talk to her parents about this situation. And abortion is the only way to get "rid" of it. The only other options are adoption and keeping the baby. And either way you look at it, being that she is only 13, she will have to confide in her parents sooner or later because after awhile, she will no longer be able to hide it.

If she is not pregnant, then she needs to either keep her legs closed, or get on birth control. If she was adult enough to have unprotected s*x, then she should be adult enough to go to her parents and tell them that she has a problem instead of coming on here and asking what should she do. Its a tad too late for advice about it now..

And people are being harsh because it is ridiculous to see how the majority of these questions being posted are about 13 year olds being pregnant or scared that they may be pregnant!! Stop having s*x if you are not responsible enough to take precautions in order to keep from getting pregnant or contracting a STD. It is not brain surgery. s*x can cause pregnancy!! especially unprotected s*x!! It can also cause diseases that you do not want..

No offence, but I tend to agree with the other posters. She is an idiot. Only an idiot would put themselves in this position purposely, knowing fully well that what she was doing could result in pregnancy, and knowing fully well that she could not support a child without a damned good support system. Also, being pregnant at that young of an age can be bad, because her body is not yet matured and a pregnancy would be hard on female's body of her age. Its hard on a fully grown woman. She gets no pitty from me.

Answer 17

She needs to do a test to find out if she is pregnant.  At 13, she could have irregular periods and stressing about being pregnant won't help.  If she is pregnant, she must see her GP or doctor at the family planning centre as soon as possible.  If she is going to have the pregnancy terminated, the earlier it is, the better.  Before 8 weeks, you normally take tablets to cause the embryo to abort.  It will be done in hospital or a clinic but it might be less traumatic than surgery.

Brook Advisory Service might be able to help http://www.brook.org.uk

Answer 18

No abortion is not the option, first thing tell her to taek a test, second she can go through the pregnacy and give it up for adoption there is a lot of good people out there who cant have babys and are looking to adopt and give the child a really good life, as for the pill yes it would be to late.

Answer 19

I think she needs to talk to her mum or someone who will put her on the pill if she's not pregnant but if she is then again she needs to tell her mum and be very grown up about this.

Answer 20

If she is pregnant, her options are:

1. Abortion

2. Have the baby adopted

3. Keep the baby.

Who is the father???   Your friend is 13, so im afraid that having s*x with her is illegal.  She is well below the age of consent.  How old is he and whats his role in all of this?

You and your friend really need to speak to someone...  maybe your parents, or a teacher.  Its a lot to ask for you to be the only one she has told.  Im sure she respects you as a friend and confident, but if she is pregnant then this is going to be a bigger problem than both of you can handle alone.

Answer 21

First of all at 13 you shouldn't even be having s*x! COME ON!  What is happening to this world! Also even if she does want to have an abortion she has to have a parent there to sign for it( she is not 18) Also I think  the best thing to do would be to think about adoption. I mean she is too young to raise this baby ,and I'd feel very bad for the baby if she did! She is still a baby herself!  Let's all pray that she isn't pregnant and that maybe she will keep her legs closed from now on!

Answer 22

She is not responsible enough yet to have a baby she needs to go to a clinic and have it terminated.

Answer 23

come on people ur dishin out some serious negative abuse here give the lass a break we all s***w up! when and i realli hope it dont come 2 this 4 her but make sure HE is their so he wont s***w up again 2

Answer 24

Get a LIFE and stop posting stupid questions

Answer 25

Lol ew.

13 year olds shouldn't be having s*x.

If she's not smart enough to use protection and know all the risks, then shes not old enough to have s*x.

Right now her only options are adoption or keep it. Or murder, if she wants to abort it.

Answer 26

Hon, how can you help a fool? if she is too dumb to stop having unprotected s*x, then how can you help her? she must be sitting on her brains! What a looser!

Answer 27

NO.  Her only option is not abortion.  She needs to grow up and have that baby.  She screwed up one time and should have learned her lesson.  Its time to be the woman she THOUGHT she was when she had s*x.  If you are truly her friend, let her know that abortion is MURDER, and to please not kill her own child.  There is always adoption.  

Ok so shes screwed up, lets just KILL an innocent baby because shes a moron and can't keep her legs closed!