Half of my heart stickers?

Question

ok this happened last deployment and i believe she already got one for this deployment. my mother in law gets the half od my heart is in iraq or afghanistan sticker and drives with in on her car. does anyone else think this is strange behavior? i could understand the a piece of my heart but half? should that go to her husband? he is my husband yet she acts like she has it worse and like she is a wife of a deployed soldier which she never has been. just curious if i am the only one who found this weird and if i should tell her kindly that their are other options for mothers and this is more a spouse thing.

Answer 1

I dont know what to say about the second wife thing.  Im sure that you both have issues towards eachother and neither of you really want to share your husband.  I look at it like this, when you get married the rest of your family becomes second to your spouse.  When you have children the rest of the world becomes second to your child.  It sounds like you might agree with the first part.  But think about when you have children of your own.  It will be hard for you to not always look at them as your "sweet baby angel face" for the rest of their lives.  I deal with my mother inlaw regularly.  She has never been the nicest to me.  I love my wife more than anything (except our daughter) in the world.  To not have any tension between them I let her mom get away with alot.

To answer your question:

  In my opinion those stickers are tacky, However, my wife did put one on our car.  But half of him is her (litterally) she was his mom long before you even knew him or even liked boys.  If he is older than you she was his mom before you where even born. I think these stickers are classier

http://www.bearplugs.com/prodimg/ahc-102...

the star means that you have a loved one that is away.  I like it because I feel like alot of people like to advertise that there loved one is away, for the simple fact that they want a pity party or want to be the center of attention.  This star has been used for decades as a tribute to the loved ones that are deployed.  Only people who have ones that are deployed (and know about the star) understand what it means.  Its very simple and classy.  It doesnt say "feel sorry for me because my husband/son is in Iraq and I feel like I need to advertise it on my car".  It is the only one out of all the profit making garbage of "support your troops" stickers that I feel is worthwhile.  all the other ones are pretty much c**p, you might as well buy a bumper sticker that says "**** happens".  I think that is probably a more realistic, less "feel sorry for me" way of letting the world know you are proud of your soldier.

Answer 2

thats not only a spouse thing. It is her son...

she will always be his mother (even if yall divorce). She will always know him longer than you. She also gave birth to him. I think you are making a mountain out of a mole hill.

I agree that mothers-in-laws can sometimes be overwhelming but ya gotta deal ya know..