Happily married ppl only..?

Question

All I hear on here is divorce and affair. My husband and I are recovering from an affair and succeeding. I would like to hear some positive things about marriage instead of I want to cheat or how do I get a divorce. Any stories out there? Serious answers only plz.

Answer 1

My husband and i have been happily married 17+yrs and our marriage has been nothing but a blessing for us.

We love each other more then anything,we are each others best friend,get along great,rarely fight,we have lots of laughs,we are both still very affectionate with each other with lots of hugs,kisses and cuddling and would never want to be without the other.

Answer 2

I am happily married. My husband is a wonderful man. I wake up everyday and and so happy to see his face. He always makes me my coffee. I love doing the small things. Like making his lunch for the next day or having dinner ready for him. It doesn't take a whole lot to make me happy. Just being with him. Going for our walks in our park with a cup of coffee. Marriage is wonderful. Its hard at times and some times I want to ring his neck lol but I love him so much. Its worth it if you want to be happy. Love is a commitment so no matter what you have to stick with it. It will be worth it. Be blessed.

Answer 3

no stories but your positivity is refreshing

Answer 4

A marriage that was good in all other ways before the affair, is worth the effort to save.  People assume that any marriage that suffers from one spouse making the horrible choice to have an affair, is an unhappy marriage.   But, affairs can and do happen in "happy" marriages.  It can be about something lacking within the wayward spouse, a need for validation, an ego boost or such.  Many say that they never planned to leave the marriage, but they feel to temptation and made very self indulgent choices.  

Many marriages can and do survive an affair.  It takes time and lots of commitment and effort from both spouses.  No quick fix, trust takes time and effort to rebuild.   A few couples will say that their marriage ends up better than before, not because of the affair, but do to the intense effort put into rebuilding.

Couples need to address the affair and problems around it.  It cannot be just swept under the rug.  It is not realistic or healthy to tell someone to just forgive and forget.  We need to work on the problems, whether within the individual, or between the couple, or both.  Short of a lobotomy, you do not forget.  We learn from those painful times, memory serves a purpose to keep us from repeating poor choices.

A study by Peggy Vaughn showed that couples who discussed the problems fully did better in recovery in the long run.  

For some, an affair is the last straw in an already very troubled marriage.  For those, divorce may just be the best answer.  But, it is NOT the answer for all.  

My H had an affair seven years ago, it was about him, his own struggles with depression and a failing business.  It was devastating I through him out twice in the first two months. Then, I found that I still loved him.  It was a complicated choice, but I decided to give rebuilding a try.  It was a difficult road, especially that first year, even into the second.  But, here we are seven years later and doing well.

Some resources that might help:

A good book:

"Not Just Friends" by S. Glass

A yahoo group that has many helpful articles and links in FILES about affair recovery. Not a good support board, not very active. But, loads of stuff in files.

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/AffairsTal...

A few other helpful sites:

http://www.dearpeggy.com/

http://marriagebuilders.com/

http://betrayedspouse101.tripod.com/

Some support groups for those dealing with infidelity that you may find very helpful:

http://www.lifesaviors.com/SI/

http://survivinginfidelity.com/

An ebook written for the former wayward spouse, to help them understand what is needed to help the betrayed spouse and earn trust again.

http://aftertheaffair.net/

Answer 5

14 yrs for me!  Many things will happen in the many long years of marriage!  Good things will happen, bad things will happen and crazy things will happen! Even Tihs happens, when you least expect this!  Things you never thought in a billion yrs may happen in your marriage lifetime!  I have fight with my wife thousands of times and we are still with each other!  I have tried marriage conseling 4 times-never work for me!  But just recently we finally slept in the same bed together in the same bedroom!  Every night we snuggle up together!  For some strange reason-this sleeping together in the same bed has improved our marriage drastically!  Now we hardly ever fight, no arguements, no frustrations, no stress with each other no more!  Now its calm after the thunderstorm.  

Answer 6

I have been happily married for almost 2 years we have our days but I love him more than anything...It takes a lot of compromise and listening...It's the best this in the world to be married to your best friend

Answer 7

Happily married, 2 kids, no divorce, no affairs.

We love and respect each other and understand that us and the kids come before everyone else and that the world does not revolve around us.

My parents went through the recovery from an affair about 10 yrs ago.  It can be done.

I think a lot of you for trying.  Just remember two things.  Don't either of you assume anything.  No matter how mundane the issue don't assume you know how the other one feels.  Number two, always communicate about everything.  Sometimes you need to send an email or pick up the phone.  Just always be open and say you are sorry when you need to or they need to hear it.

Good luck!

Answer 8

The affair is a symptom, the tip of the ice berg of the disease.  I know of four very successful couples who have survived extra-marital affairs.  There are many more I am sure.  

Nothing is impossible with God's help and I am glad that you are making a go of it.  Marriage is a beautiful thing and many to not understand the concept of the vows we have sworn:  Till death do us part, Love one another, taking thee unto me.............  As human beings we are not perfect either.  Forgiveness of one another is important to any relationship, but especially in marriage.  

Much love and success to you both!