Happy Birthday to the son I never have seen.You are 23 today, I hope someday we will meet.?

Question

Yes, I fathered a child when I was but a 17 yrear old kid and we gave him up for adoption. We weren't ready and I really had no choice or so I thought at the time. Anyway, every year when September 27 rolls around,I aknowledge him .But everyday I think about him and wonder. -DOB 9//27/84 N.Y

Answer 1

Wow, that's so sweet! It's nice to see a dad that cares. I hope someday, when it's right for you both, you find each other!

Answer 2

I am sorry for you. I know what it's like to be that young and be faced with the knowledge that you are going to have to make that choice. I kept my child, but it sure wasn't easy.

Happy Birthday to your son.

I hope you meet your son, too. I wish you the best of luck and hope you find him.

Answer 3

Happy Birthday to him!!

Answer 4

You are a good person for acknowledging him yearly.  Some men could care less about kids they've helped conceived.

I bet he has a wonderful family :)  Maybe you can leave a msg with the adoption agency to give to him.

Answer 5

I understand how you feel. I gave up a beautiful daughter for adoption 21 yrs ago. In June 2007, (on my bday), I got a call from the state saying my daughter wanted to contact me.  Everyone was sent the paper work and permissions given.  On the June 20th, my mother called me to say my daughter had called her. And that she would be contacting me later in the afternoon. My daughter called me within an hour.  We met for the first time on June 28th.  She is a gorgeous young lady, in her 4th year of college.  We have become the closest of friends. I have met her adopted family. They raised her very well and adjusted  

Don't give up, someday you WILL meet your son.  Try going thru the state from which he was adopted out.

Answer 6

If you haven't already done so, (and I have no idea how to do so) but why don't you register yourself in case he is searching for you. Make it easier for him to locate you.

By giving him up for adoption you did an amazing thing. You act of love is remarkable. You gave him a chance at a better upbringing and I'm sure he will thank you for it.

Answer 7

ITS NICE TO SEE THAT YOU CARE!! GOOD LUCK!!!!!

HAPPY B-DAY TO HIM!!!

Answer 8

good luck finding him :)  i hope you do someday

and i think it is VERY sweet of you to acknowledge him every year!

good luck and best wishes!

Answer 9

I am so sorry to hear about this. I hope you can reunite with your child someday. Happy birthday to him, and if it is anyone's birthday on here and you are turning 23, please answer this question and tell us.

Answer 10

i hope someday u reunite with your kid

Answer 11

,.., yeah ayt!! i agree,., wen ur too young and much inlove,.,.

you might be really doing crazy stuffS!! but i know u are already forgiven,.,. u know why? thou ur son is not around,.,. still you manage to acknowledge him/her,.,. good for that!!

Answer 12

Oh that's so sad i hope one day you and your son will be together! Higher a investigator so they could find him for you and that way you wont have to worry about anything!

Answer 13

hope u find him one day

Answer 14

Happy Birthday to him too. I am sure he is having a fab time with all his mates

Answer 15

thats so sad im sure he wonders about his birth day too.why dont you try to find him?

Answer 16

It is nice to know you care. My sister has a baby and her and the father live in the same small town and he doesnt give a rats about the baby.

If you werent ready to have the baby and raise him then you done the best thing to give him a chance in life. I hope that one day you get to meet him and that he is everything you hoped he would be.

Answer 17

its qood that you acknowledqe him...some "men" don't step up to the plate...its qood that you are doinq that....you never know maybe he is out there lookinq for you...=]]]

Answer 18

I am so sorry that you and your son were separated due to adoption. I hope you will someday meet too!

Register with the ISRR:

http://www.isrr.net/

and try this site:

http://www.adopteeconnect.com/p/a/1034/

and leave a letter with the adoption agency.

Best of luck to you - it's posts like these that make my heart sink for all of us who were needlessly separated.