Hard for me to show my emotions..?

Question

I wasn't abused as a child or anything that falls under that category but when it comes to friends.. unless I say that I really care about them.. It's hard for me to show it.. I hate crying in front of people as well because I hate having people worry about me... I can show other emotions frustration, anger, etc but not love or caring.. I have been through alot with my friend that I have known for 8 years but I'm not sure if she knows how much I care about her... Why is it hard for me to show love or caring..?

Answer 1

same for me i can't cry in front of people only when i was little i could i don't know why either i think it's just how you are i don't think i can be changed unless your not yourself...

Answer 2

since you say you was not abused as a child i think you problem is that you did not believe in yourself that yourself that you love that girl if you love her with all your heart you don not have to doubt yourself you only need to find out what she likes and try to be doing it if this can work for my friend work for me it can work for you

Answer 3

I'm the same way. My parents had no problem displaying anger but the "tender" emotions weren't shown. So, to me, showing those emotions causes major anxiety and I feel like an idiot. So I don't show them. And my life is okay. Your behavior itself shows love and caring, and your friend wouldn't be with you after 8 years if she didn't know it. But if you want, find one of those Hallmark cards with a long poem about friendship and give it to her. Tell her this is how you feel but it's hard for you to find the words. She will be absolutely thrilled.

Answer 4

A lot of people have a very hard time showing emotions. You're not alone. I've found that whenever I can't let someone know in person what they mean to me, I take the time to hand write them a long letter explaining it all. All of those I've done this with have become lifelong friends.

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Answer 5

Odds are that someone in your family also is that way and you have just adopted their view as you grew up that you need to be the strong one.  You need to learn that in order for people close to you to feel close to you that you have to let them in and be emotionally vulnerable once in awhile.  It isn't easy but it is a needed thing.