Hard to get of words and have depression?

Question

I know that i do have a problem and i go and see someone every month and tell him that i am fine but in reality i am not ok. I cant get out the words that want to say and it hard for me. How can i over come this when i go and see him again and tell him how i really feel inside and hope to get something out of it?

Answer 1

Write it down. I was the same way when I first started seeing my therapist but then one day I started writing all the thoughts down that I wanted to tell him and I took him two pages of scrawled writing. He read the whole thing quietly then we started to talk. Seeing that he wasn't judging me help me trust him and I was able to talk to him after that.  Don't try to organize what you've written or write it neater, take it as it is. Helps show your frame of mind with each thought.

Answer 2

I think is is just built into our culture to reply to the question "how are you, today?"   The classic answer:  "O.K. or just fine."  That is my answer and it is never true.  People do not want to hear your complaints in my opinion.   Your therapist sounds lazy in failing to push you to answer about how your condition is today vs. two weeks ago.  I would seek medications and forget the talk therapy as I failed to get any benefit from talking to some half trained social worker. I was in my 20s and paid for the therapy out of my wallet.  I wanted to be helped and the clown who is now dead just sat there and took notes.  I stumbled into a psychiatrist who was from the school of drug therapy so that the patient could live rather than survive.  

Answer 3

Try and see your therapist more frequently, and also try to be honest with him/her. They're there to help you, not judge you, and they can't do that if you're not being honest.

As other people have suggested, journaling is a good way to relieve stress. You could also try cooking, aroma therapy, acupuncture, exercise, etc.

Good luck.

Answer 4

Unless you're honest with your therapist, you won't get the help you say you need -- and you're wasting your and his time.

Is once a month really enough to be helped by therapy?  Have you consider more frequent appointments?

Also, try journaling.  It's a useful way to organize your thoughts by writing them out.