Hard to stop thinking about a baby?

Question

I am only 21 and I am getting married this January. I am constantly thinking about how I want to be a mom and have a child as soon as we get married. After the wedding, I will have 1 year left until I graduate from college, so obviously it would complicate things. My husband to be wants to wait several years, but it's something I can't stop thinking about. I know that if it happened (without us planning it) we would be OK. But I know we should wait to try... how? and how long?

Answer 1

Have a long talk with your fiance. See if you can come to some sort of agreement on this! He may change his mind! If he doesn't wait a year and ask again!

Answer 2

Wait until you finish college at the very least.Your husband is very sensible. Waiting several years is the smart thing to do.Have your honeymoon then built your new world together. Set up some financial assets for the hard times that may come up on you both unexpectedly. Get comfortable in your careers. Then and only then will a new born baby get what they ought to get (stability, love, patience, financial security and 2 great role models)

Answer 3

i got married at 22 and i am now 24 and at the time when we were engaged i was in my first year of law school and i was like i want a baby right away but he was constantly like no lets wait a few years well i talked him into having babies earlier and we planned on me getting pregnant this summer since i would be graduating from law school and it just worked out so what i guess im saying is just wait to see how it folds out he might cave in and realize he wants kids earlier too. but i would totally wait till you both have a steady job (unless you plan to stay home like me) and a permanent home to live in other then that anytime is fair game good luck! trust me once your married its so much easier to convince a man its time for a baby

Answer 4

I know the feeling.

I wanted to have kids since I was a teenager. I'm now 29, and don't have one yet.

I'm with my boy-friend since more than 6 years, and we just started to " work" for it. Before that, we (mostly I) talked about it. But I was still in school (graduated in december 2006). Then I had to start my career. We had to move into another appartment.

Men need time to realise they are ready, when we just feel it. Even when we know they are ready, they don't know it yet.

Just be patient, finish your schooling, get a job. This will reassure him.

Don't despair. In one year and a half, I found a good job, we bought a car, moved in a bigger appartment and we're now trying to have a family. Thing can move fast...

Good luck!