Harsh or necessary? i think its a little funny?

Question

my lil sis could easily have been described as a bad kid last year. most of my parents complaints were directed toward her seemingly toxic relationships and wardrobe inspired by MTV music videos. my dad took us for back to school shopping and even though her middle school doesn't have a uniform policy hes demanding that she personally wears a uniform and that's what we went shopping for. of course shes upset, but will this punishment do anything else than make her upset?

Answer 1

p**s her off or maybe show her that you can be accepted by dressing properly.

Answer 2

It depend on her.

Whether she can understand the meaning of this punishment or not.

Time must be needed.

Answer 3

This is unnecessary.  

I think this punishment will just push her to rebel further, and will lead to her resenting your parents influence more.

Is this meant as a consequence?  If so, a shorter term consequence may have been in order.  You can't punish a child that age for the rest of her school year.  I could see purchasing a uniform for her to wear for a day if, say, she wore one appropriate outfit to school, and then changed into a halter top and a miniskirt once she got there...  Not all the time.

Your dad and mom should possibly compromise with your sister.  They could use this as an opportunity to see what her style is, what elements she is attracted to, and why she likes this type of clothing.  Then, they could show her how to take these elements, and use them in a way that is appropriate.

She's an adolescent.  She is doing what adolescents do.  Your parents should use this as an opportunity to build their relationship and teach a life lesson.  Not push the kid further away.

Good luck!

Answer 4

He sounds like he was a little extreme in his approach.  He should let her take the uniforms back as long as she " cools it " on her approach to dressing.  He should try to reach a halfway point on how she dresses.  Parents seem to always get over concerned about kids clothes ( but then you look at what some of the kids wear - and maybe you can't blame them ).

It isn't easy to be a parent at times - you care for your child, you want to give them freedom, but yet you need to draw limits.  It is a tough job.

Answer 5

thats to harsh he should have told he to get some nice looking close and not such trashy ones

Answer 6

it might not make her immediatley make her conform to your fathers ideas, but keeping a G rated wardrobe might steer her down the right path. i think your father is doing the right thing.

Answer 7

yeah... it'll convince her that sneaking around is the only way to get what she wants.  she won't wear the uniforms cause she'll look like a fool. so she will borrow clothes from friends, sneak clothes out of the house whatever, and change in bathrooms, the backs of cars, wherever... its totally not gonna work, and in my estimation will just make it worse..

Answer 8

She's probably not going to learn why she needs to dress appropriately if she's being forced into clothes she doesn't want to wear.  Isn't the point to make sure that when she is on her own, she can look presentable by herself?

Answer 9

That's a little extreme, if he couldn't keep her from dressing bad last year, how is he going to make her dress in a uniform?

Answer 10

i think its just ganna make her want to sneak around.

Answer 11

not harsh

good punishment

yes kinda funny lol

Answer 12

It probably won't do anything else. He should have told her to buy normal looking clothes and helped her pick it out. She will get picked on if she wears the same outfit everyday even if she got more than one. She may also rebel because it is such a harsh punishment. I would say he should have just picked her out normal looking clothes. Best of luck.

Answer 13

hahaha oh that sucks!!! i understand that your parents are probably freaked out about her wardrobe but this will only make her want to rebel more