Has He Turned Me Into A PLayer?

Question

I fell in love for the first time recently. But the guy was a bit of a player apparently and he lead me on and then let me down. It was on holiday so i won't see him for another 8 months. I still love him, but i feel angry and sad. Anyways, when i came back i started acting alot more affectionate to my guy friends. One of them is about his height and shares afew of his characteristics. I don't feel anything but friendship for him but i found myself mentally calling him by my loves name and treating him like i treated him. I lead him on, then the next day i just acted like nothing happened. Im acting exactly like he did, and i don't think it's gonna stop with this one guy.

Why is this happening? Why am i yearning so much to be treated like he treated me and do the same back? Please, psychologists etc...explain this to me!?

Answer 1

IT'S AN ORDINARY THING,YOU WERE JUST DOING THE SAME THING BECAUSE YOU ARE HEARTED TOO AND ALSO AFFECTIONATE OF THAT GUY,YOU MENTIONED,SO PLEASE DON'T BE ALONE FOR SOMETIME AND IF YOU ARE THAN DO THE OTHER THINGS,I MINE KEEP YOUR SELF BUSY.

Answer 2

No one can turn you into anything without your consent.

I think that you might just be on the rebound, and this male friend of yours comforts you when you are feeling a void (of maybe the break up?), and so you act affectionate towards this guy but later realized what you did and realize that this guy is just a friend.

If you are aware of the things you are doing, then it isn't out of your control.  It is you doing it because you want to.  Does it make you feel better to treat your friend this way?  Does it make you feel in control?

I think you are probably just on the rebound.

Or it might  be that you are feeling trapped, and treating your male friend this way makes you feel like you can control your relationships.

Like you could be the one with the upper hand.

That's as much as I can give you.

Sorry.