I have a 1 yr old with my now ex-husband. We separated when I was 6 months pregnant, tried to reconcile a few months later but he walked out n us to be with a girl he had just met and cheated on me with.
I have taken care of my son alone, financailly, physically and emotionnally. I tried to involve him, asked him for help, but he kept saying that I didn't deserve it.
Now that he has his new girlfriend, and got her pregnant after 4 months, he thinks he's the best dad in the world, even though he still doesn't do anything for our son. He now claims that he's going to tell our son that it was all my fault he left (not true, HE decided to cheat, beat me, etc, no one forced him), that I kept my son from him (Not true, I tried to involve him, but he refused, saying he nly wanted to see his son at HIS place (he moved in right away with his "mistress", which I found to be a bit too early for my son to be around her, h**l, he thinks I shouldn't bring a guy around my son for at least a year after I started dating, yet he waited a full... 3 days! to introduce her). He claims he's going to make my son love him more, that when the child is going to be 6 he's going to say he wants to live with daddy, that he's going to tell my son that I don't love him, etc.
How do you deal with that? His contact with our son is fairly limited, and I will have, once the judge signs the order, full custody and him only visitation rights... I'm just afraid of the impact it's all going to have on my son. He wants my son to call his new girlfriend "mommy", he always talk bad about me around our son...
Even though he's an idiot, and I hate him, I NEVER talk bad about him around my son, nor do my parents (I moved into an apartment at their house, so I could get some support from them, physically and emotionnally). I've teached him to say daddy, when he does see him, I always get him well rested before so he can enjoy his time with his dad, we always ask him (even though he's still too young to answer) if he had fun, always get him to blow kisses to his dad when he drops him off, etc.
Yet, my ex wants to alineate my son from me, and I don't know how to deal with that and how I can help my son cope in the future. I am a great mom, I love my son more than anything.... I am trying to be the better person here, but he's making it difficult!
How do you deal? What do you do?
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