Has anyone else been through this?

Question

Im 27 weeks with my first child & very very happy to be pregnant. I cant wait for him to be here but last night, i was thinking about it all and I cant imagine having him and him being here. I just cant picture it or visualise me looking after him or taking care of him.

Is it normal to not be able to imagine yourself with your baby? Im worried too because he has CCAM, an area of his lungs that doesnt work properly which will have to be removed after birth via surgery and im worried its like a sign something will go wrong.

Has anyone else gone through this?

Answer 1

OMG!!!!! My Daughter had this whilst I was pregnant with her. I have never met anyone else who knew about it. At my 20 week scan I found out she had a microcystic CAMM on her left lung. I had to go to Kings College in London every week thereafter for scans, they were evven going to operate whilst she was still inside me. It was very scary and I didn't like to think too far ahead. I had my last scan at 37 weeks and found it had rectified itself. As soon as my Daughter was born she had a chest x-ray and it was clear. She had follow-ups,etc and was given the absolute all clear when she was 2. She is now 4 years old and you wouldn't know anything was ever wrong with her apart from mild ashtma and colds,etc. Everything will be fine. It is soooooo normal to not be able to imagine you and your baby, it's a life changing thing and something that you could never imagine. There are the bad times but these are quickly forgotten about as the good times are so fab!!!

Answer 2

yes, i also hard a hard time imagining myself with my baby when i was pregnant. not because i didn't want her, because i was VERY happy to be pregnant. but it's hard to visualize yourself with someone you have never met! it's hard to picture yourself as a mom for the first time. so in my opinion, it's very normal. good luck to you and your baby!

Answer 3

It's completely normal - even women whose babies appear to be healthy will still struggle with terrible "what if" thoughts about something going wrong.

I also couldn't imagine life with my baby - it's just because you know how much of an impact it will have on you, and it's very hard to get your head around that. The good news is that as soon as s/he is born, you won't be able to remember what it was like without him/her!

Try not to worry, and try to enjoy everything...

Answer 4

Normal, normal, normal!!!! you are bound to be very anxious about his op, poor wee man, and that's going to be getting to you. That dosent mean it's a sign something will go wrong, just an natural reaction to what you are facing. I'm sure his surgery will go well and he'll be just fine. Good luck with everything and congratulations!!! things will fall into place when he's born, it's hard to imagine caring for your first child. Most women feel this way. ((hugs))

Answer 5

Jordan Price had the same thing . Your thinking of how you might not cope with your son/Daughter.

It's actually as disorder , Talk to your doctor are you parents are even your partnr without getting him upset.

:)

Answer 6

I think most first time mothers have fears of caring for and raising their children.  But once that bundle of joy comes into your life, your thinking will change.  It is scary to think that we are going to have this baby who is 100% dependent on us, but what gets me through it is, I am going to try to be the best mother I can be.  No one is a perfect mom, its a learning process..

Answer 7

Hello its so normal i think every pregnant woman think like that it being frightened of the unknown,I'm due my fourth baby and I'm telling you I'm so happy like you but at the same time i cant picture myself with another baby and im a bit scared of not being able to cope, but every thing will just fall in to place,and i hope every thing goes OK with your wee baby ill say a prayer for you and you will be the best mummy.

Answer 8

I think its normal to feel this way, its an anxiety of how you ar going to cope, along withthe worries of the baby and the operation..talk to someone about it and how you feel...I'm sure everything will turn out fine.

Answer 9

i understand exactly what you mean, i felt the same when i was pregnant with my 2nd child.

its ok, you will be fine once the baby is in your arms, it 100% natural to feel like this!

Answer 10

Hi I am glad that you have asked this question as I woke up the other morning and was thinking the same thing to myself, I am currently 35 weeks pregnant and even thought I am so close to giving birth I cannot imagine him being here and I cannot even imagine or think if me going into labour, obviously I will and want to, but I dont feel like I will, its very strange and I thought I was the only one that thought this way, but im glad that I am not as I thought I was being weird, I want my baby and love him to bits already so its nothing like that, but even thought everything is here ready and hes moving about inside me, its odd to think that he will be here soon with us, and its like it wont happen but will.

I know what you mean and will keep an eye on this post as I want to hear other peoples feelings too.

I havent long to go now, I cannot wait even thought it doesnt seem real. lol

Answer 11

I think it is normal to feel this way. Especially since there is something wrong. Take your excitement as a good sign and fluff off any doubt. I am sure you will be a wonderful mother!