Has anyone else experienced this? How do you work it out?

Question

This sounds a little silly and i hope it doesn't sound mean but recently, me and my boyfriend have been having problems in the bedroom :/

(We have been together for nealy 10 months)

Its not that its bad or anything its just things seem to be slowing down, and i really don't want them to.

For example we are only rarely having s*x and when we do there is no effort put into it from my partners side. I spoke to him and suggested doing more of foreplay and stuff to make it more exciting, but he took it the wrong way and said he didn't want to talk about it.

Its sounds silly but this 'problem' is really starting to upset me. And i just feel like he doesn't find me sexually attractive anymore. I wish he would just talk to me but he doesn't.

Is there anything you can suggest that might help?

(Please no silly questions from people telling me i need to leave my boyfriend)

Thank you

Answer 1

well ppl wudnt tell u to leave ur boyfriend

because the problem is not ur boyfriend

the problem is you

if a guy refuses to have s*x or is just not interested and doesnt try new things .... its not becuz he's g*y or anything is wrong with him ....

hes just not that into you anymore

or hes getting it from somewhere else

s*x is a big thing for a guy ... and if ur bf doesnt even wanan have it ... then u need to talk about why hes lost interest in u

Answer 2

sounds like he is bored... spice things up buy a costume, ask him to pull over wail driving down a highway and start things right there. or he might be self servicing which would take the heat right out of the kitchen. just remember if he is not willing to talk about it at all then that is just not health for a relationship  

Answer 3

When he says he doesn't want to talk about it, tell him if he wants to continue to have s*x that he has to talk about it.

Don't mince words with him.  Don't tell him how you feel in some round-about way that he might take the wrong way.  Tell him exactly, and in plain words so he CAN'T take it the wrong way.

Tell him that his actions make you feel like he doesn't want you any more.  Tell him that his actions make you feel unattractive.

In short, tell him what you are telling US HERE!!!... Since communicating properly with him is far more important than communicating with us.

Answer 4

just by reading your story .. is there a chance that he could be cheating on you ?

juust wondering .. because from the sounds of it there could be that possiblitly ..

& TALK to him about it !! .. seriously i will help

blondefreak : )