Has anyone else had nasty comments said about there children?

Question

my wife was out yesterday with our 15 month old. she is teething and not been well lately. as my wife was going round a shop an old woman looked at our daughter as she was crying with teething pains and said to her if i was your mother i would smack you and give you something to cry about. later at the check out the same woman said to my wife "cant you keep her quiet, your a bad mother" to which my wife replied what do you want me to do shes ill. the shop assistant came up to my wife and told her to ignore the old woman as she was just been a grumpy old git. what would you have done in this situation?

Answer 1

What a wench, your poor wife and baby girl to hear that. I probably would of ignored her but given a look of disgust the first time then the second time told her listen you ole bird if you dont like it leave, come near me again and Ill knock ya down...but in all seriousness its hard to say anything when your shocked by someone sometimes, especially when you have your children with you, you feel soo vulnerable. Sorry that happened hope you daughter feels better and your wifes not too hurt by it~

Answer 2

Smacked her- the old woman not the child. No not really but to be honest I would tell the old woman to mind her own bloody business what I do with my kids is none of her d**n business. Then calmly ask her if she is going back to India again this year as it must be so nice to be treated like royalty

Answer 3

Told her to mind her own f&*£ing buisness.

Answer 4

Nasty bitter old spinster, your wife done very well not to hit the old bat with her shopping trolley.

Answer 5

Wow how rude. Your wife handled it well the old lady probably was just in a bad mood or something. I don't have any kids so no. I'm only a teenager! Haha

Answer 6

You both handled it correctly.  Old bag was just looking for a fight (some old people are vile because everyone lets them get away with it!)

That said, its best not to rise to it.  Your wife explained why your daughter was irritable and crying - that was a courteous thing to do, she didnt have to do that.

Arguing with crazy old people just makes you look even crazier lol - better to walk away and leave them in their misery.

Answer 7

I would've used a stronger word than "git." My 5 mo old nephew is teething also (sorry to say it doesnt get any better at 5 months) and he gets feverish and cranky too. How does that make my brother & sis in law or you and your wife a bad parent? Ignore dumb people. By the way I'm sure your baby is adorable...

Answer 8

My 14 month old was playing with some of the clothes hanging in Wal-mart while I was shopping.  The sales lady told me to stop him from touching the clothes b/c he might ruin them.  I told her to mind her own business and let my son continue whith his playing.  He was not eating them or anything, no sticky hands, just curious.  I tell my mother-in-law to mind her own.  This is my son.  I will choose what he can and cant do.

Answer 9

OMG what a cow! i would have told her what for, told her to mind her own business, she knows nothing about me or my child and to back off and keep her nasty comments to herself!

some old people can be really nasty! i had a similar experiecne in a bank with an old woman, she was lucky i didnt kick her walking frame from under her!

Answer 10

Sometimes people can be so cruel and quick enough to judge, unfortunately she'll find this kind of people quite often but tell her not to worry she's done great by telling her that your daughter is ill without being rude so next time this woman will  think twice before making such comments.

Answer 11

i would of said,,,,,(in a very matter of fact manner) im really sorry love, i was going to leave her at home in a cupboard. But unfortunately, somebody just like you interfered last time i did that and now i'm forced to bring her with me while she is teething

Answer 12

I would have told the old woman to mind her own f***ing business..... who the heck do people think they are these days.... My thoughts are - if they are ignorant enough to say that to me then I would be ignorant enough to say something back to her.

Also - treat people with the same respect they treat you with......

Good for your wife - but I would have said more... Ohh... that boils my blood!

Answer 13

Hi,

How horrible is that! I have had people say same about Caden when he crying his head off.

They don't understand so I just ignore them now but it hurtful at times.

Tell your wife to ignore comments like that!

Lx

Answer 14

i would have smarted off at her. Its hard to handle people like that and it seems like older people have trouble tolerating children. Your wife shouldnt feel bad because any decent person who has been around children knows that she is not a bad mother. Babies cry even when theyre not ill. You cant control a tiny little person who doesnt even yet understand what you are saying to them especially if they are sick. that crazy old lady needs to stay home if she doesnt like people

Answer 15

I think your wife did just fine, she should ignore the grumpy lady.  Teething is horrible and I bet the grumpy lady would be the first to complain loudly about the pain.

Answer 16

I have met similar bizarre old bags....I ignore them or move away....I think sometimes it is the onset of Alzheimer's disease....and they're just losing their marbles!

Answer 17

I believe your wife handled it well. The old lady was a grump and probably just wanted attention... Who knows, maybe she always wanted children but could never have them so now she is bitter and resentful at children.

Answer 18

ignore her and just basically you/your wilfe know your good at parenting the lady probably is just nasty or had a bad childhood and takes it out on other people alot of people have problems

Answer 19

As some people get old they feel like they have the God given right to behave like mean jerks. Your wife handled that old bat very well. I probably would have said a whole lot more and been extrememly rude. Tell your wife to just let the whole incident go over her head and not worry about it. Old people are just terrors sometimes.

Answer 20

What do you want me to do you old hag!? My baby is teething and not feeling well!

A lot of old people are like that I guess. I kinda had the same thing happen to me.

Answer 21

How rude!!! All babies cry and most humans cry especially when they are in pain!!! I would have told that old hag to shut the h**l up , its none of her business and that her that her mom should have smaked you more as a child and maybe you would learn some manners!!!

Answer 22

if I was is that situation I would have looked at the old woman and asked if she had children....if she said no then I would ell her she has no say and that for her info the child is teething. or if she said she did i would say oh and what did u do when they were teething cause mine is teething and not feeling well so do u have any advice for me?  sometimes in a situation like that u just ignore it. but she did do well I say.

Answer 23

slapped the lady who wanted to give your kid something to cry about

Answer 24

I am so sorry that happened to your wife. It's enough that she has to worry about a sick child, but then to have some idiots make comments about it! I would've probably said something to the old coot in not so nice ways! Best wishes on teething and I recommend Infant Motrin drops (that really helped my son with the pain).

Answer 25

I would have cussed her old *** out lol..... People are going to say things and give looks. As parents you have to pick and choose your battles.

Answer 26

OMG...I would have gone off on her.  Someone would have had to call the police...lol!  Seriously.  The lady would have never made it to the check out counter for the second comment.

Your wife handled herself better than I would have.  Kudos to her!

Answer 27

Yes...and I just ignore the idiots...

Answer 28

I think I'd have done a "Professor Stanley Unwin" nonsense monologue >>

or maybe prophesied in tongues >>

to confuse her even more - LOL

Answer 29

I would have told her to Get her old, ugly *** out mine and my childs face.

Answer 30

would av told the old bat , that id smack her and given her something to moan about!and not about to have a battle of wits with someone who is only halve prepared!

your wife must be a very calm tolerant person

Answer 31

I would've told that lady 'cant YOU keep quiet! if you dont shut up, ill smack you!' but seriously, my own MIL made a comment about my son being a 'bad baby' because she was watching him one day and 'all he did was cry'...he was only a month and a half old! i told my fiance, obviously he wasnt comfortable with her and she doesnt have the patience to take care of him so we will never ask her to watch him again!