Has anyone ever LOST their patience completely and then somehow got it back?

Question

I met my husband when I was 14. We were together til I was 21, broke up got back, had a kid, broke up, got back, got married, had another baby. It's going to be 2 years married in Sept.

I have completly LOST my patience with him. He has been lazy, unproductive, and selfish. I have now lost my patience. I told him I was leaving, he changed (it's been 3 weeks), I then took a guys # and called him and met for coffee.

Told my husband cause I'm a bad liar, and now we are working it out. Why do I still NOT have any patience with him?

We have been in counseling since January, it has helped how we communicate slightly but that's about it.

What is going on? I am so confused, it's like 50% of the time I'm happy, and 50% of the time I'm not and want to leave. How to I get somewhere like this?

Answer 1

Prozac;)

Answer 2

I regained my patience when I started drinking vodka..

Answer 3

The problem is he used up your patience and now he is having to earn it back.  He hurt you and pushed you to a point that your afraid to believe in true change.  There for you have no patience because giving patience would imply that things haven't changed.  Right now your questioning if this change is enough and if it is a sign of future change or is this all you can expect.  You will only find your patience when you are sure that the change is real, permanent, and on going.

Answer 4

Ok you have lost your patience.  Is that all your relationship is built on?  Only you can decide whether or not to continue in the relationship.  But for me once I lose my patience with a person I let them go.

Answer 5

um no, im married and can't relate at all to this.

Answer 6

I think you should leave him so he can move on and find someone who won't get another guy's number every time she "loses her patience".

Answer 7

I think you fell out of love with him and really do not want to be with him anymore... all the back and forth you've done should have told you this.  He's familiar.. safe..etc... that is why you keep going back, but you know if you heart that you shouldnt.  Be honest with yourself .. if you want to work things out, you will.  If it's beyond repair, then you won't..move on with your life.