Has anyone ever asked a homeless beggar "do you want to stay in my house with me?"?

Question

i mean, it would be nice to do that. and you might not have to pay too much for their food. id allow a homeless person to live in my house as long as they cleaned up after their own messes and were willing to eat relatively cheap food (since i only eat cheap food as well). is this a smart thing to do?

Answer 1

>>>>>>>"most of the people are mentally unstable."

No, they are NOT mentally unstable at all!   And to answer the question, I wouldn't.

Answer 2

No. I volunteer at a soup kitchen every Thursday and most of the people are mentally unstable.

EDIT:

Most of the people I provide food for are actually disturbed army vets (Vietnam/Korea).

And yes they are mentally unwell. You haven't seen half the sh*t they've seen.

Answer 3

Not for anything in the world. I have read far too many cases of good intentions being rewarded with rape, robbery and murder. Some people have had a homeless person living with them for months or even years and then one day, wham! NEVER worth the risk, too unstable and you have no idea what their backgrounds are.

Answer 4

Only if you want to wake up in the middle of the night with a dirty p****r being smacked across your face/

Answer 5

Well, I would love to do something like that, but wisdom has to come into play also.  I wouldn't want my family hurt or worse, because I am trying to be a good Samaritan.

Answer 6

Not anymore...and I never will again.

When I was in my early 20s and married, my then-husband and I did that a few times as part of a church ministry. We actually helped them get places of their own,too, but in the end, each of those folks let us down... it really was an exercise in frustration! Most of the time, the homeless person didn't want to take personal responsibility for their lives, and they'd wind making bad choices and eventually winding up back on the streets or falling into their previous bad habits anyway no matter how much "help" they got.

Plus it was really becoming disruptive to our home life. Call me selfish but I got tired of having to "share" my husband with down and outers...and tired of feeling like I was taking 2d fiddle to them.  If I wanted a special evening with my husband and my husband ONLY, there was always a houseful of people there and that got really old...fast...and the crappy thing was the church kept guilt tripping me about having a "lack of compassion" for those in need...but what about my needs as a wife?

Anyway, after my daughter was born, I finally put a permanent stop to it. I felt that the safety of my family should come first. After all, how do I know if that homeless person isn't mentally ill, or isn't a child molestor, or doesn't have a criminal record or isn't mentally ill or wasn't just a straight out con artist? I felt we shouldn't take those kinds of risks...not with a baby in the house.  

At any rate, I'd advise you to think long and hard before doing that...especially if you are married with children.  Keep in mind not all homeless are innocent victims. Some of them are homeless due to their own poor choices.

EDIT

Also, I think some homeless people might be thinking long and hard about accepting just anyone's help.  Some so-called Good Samaritans aren't always innocent, either.  This is a true case:  Recently two elderly Los Angeles women, Helen Golay, 77, and Olga Rutterschmidt, 75,  were convicted of murder, conspiracy to murder and insurance fraud.  The case is called the Black Widow murders. They'd volunteer at soup kitchens and churches and be looking for homeless men for potential victims. They'd offering shelter to them, and then they'd take out insurance policies on the men.  These two women waited for two years and then homelessperson would die in a hit and run accident! Then they'd go in a posing as relatives or girlfriends of the victims to get the money.  They got over $2M on the murders of two men, and the police think they were targeting as many 20 men over the past two decades!

They  both got life imprisonment with no possibility of parole.

Answer 7

Definitely not. I have been in the law enforcement type field and have learned that many (NOT ALL) homeless have serious substance abuse or mental health issues. If these issues are untreated you could be setting yourself up for a dangerous situation.

Bad Idea......