Has anyone ever been in this situation with thier bfs family?

Question

My boyfriend and I are expecting our first child together in Jan. His ex fiance is also pregnant but her childs father has abandoned her. My boyfriends family has taken her in pretty much and treats her as if the two of them never broke up. This is odd for me b/c shes at all the family functions. He says its a little odd for him but yet he still talks to her and they are close friends. I understand she needs ppl but every time I get around his family and her they sit around and talk about the old days (they were together 3yrs) Im left out b/c im not part of the old days. My boyfriend knows im uncomfortable about this and he does what he can to just stick around me but im still very uncomfortable. His reason behind this behavior from his family is b/c they feel sorry for her and they say her family is not supportive....her dad bought her a new car and they are buying all her baby stuff...thats pretty supportive to me! Ive tried to be nice and get along with her so im not the

Answer 1

That is absolutely horrible.  I wouldn't put up with it.  If his family is choosing his ex over their own son and his new relationship then maybe neither of you should attend any functions where she is present so that they can see how inappropriate it is.  You need to get your bf on your side about this and if he won't, it's time to start thinking about leaving. Total b.s.!!

Answer 2

You will just have to prove to them how good for your boyfriend you are, and how good of a mother you will be. Don't let it get to you - obviously your boyfriend sees in you what his family cannot yet see.

My boyfriend's family didn't approve of me at first, but now they love me because they know he loves me.