Has anyone ever fallen out of love with their spouse over the "little things"?

Question

Sometimes it is not just one thing but many little details that either keep us in love or get us out of it, right?

Answer 1

Do the little things add up?  Yes they do.  Do they cause you to fall out of love?  They might.  It all really depends.  Every relationship has its little things.  The real question should always be "are my needs being met in spite of these little things?".  That's what's really important.  

The little things are so subjective.  Are they the "causes" or the "effects"?  It's almost impossible to tell.  If you ask your spouse, he/she probably has a laundry list.  i bet your best friend or family have their little things as well that you don't like.  

The lesson that I have learned in my life is that you should confront your spouse with the "little things".  Your spouse will help you with your decision process more than you realize.  

Either he/she can listen to your "requests/needs" and value them and start to make changes or may be unwilling/unable.  then you start thinking is this a long term issue/s that i can live with.  but don't keep it bottled up.  it will only only make things worse.  

you can NEVER control anyone's actions/thoughts.  only how you view the situation and your OWN decisions.  and are your needs be addressed by the relationship.

good luck.  i know it's not easy...  

    

Answer 2

I would imagine so.  The mounting of "little things" can cause many big erruptions in a marriage.  People divorce for all kinds of reasons.  

Answer 3

honey ... simple things is what my heart beats for !!

men are stupid (sorry but it's true) they can win our heart by simple little sweet things but they are just too lazy

Answer 4

no, i dont think there is such thing as falling out of love.  its probably that he/she is not your fate.  or you are losing faith with eachother.  because love is eternal, it transcends through time... it does not change.

Answer 5

Check out the book "The Five Love Languages."  You're probably still in love, you just aren't expressing it to each other in ways that you are clearly perceiving.  All those little things certainly do add up!  This book saved my marriage!!  Good luck.

Answer 6

It's very possible for this to happen.  maybe these things didn't use to bug you but you're expectations change after marriage...or if your spouse doesn't adjust to the changes that happen in life- like having kids or other responsibilities.  ie...if hubby is still ALWAYS playing xbox or hangin with his friends everysingle night while the wife takes full responsibility for kids.  the little things will seem bigger.  it works the other way too.  If hubby does the dishes, the wife is gonna be alot more appreciative now cuz of her added responsibility of taking care of kids.

Answer 7

Yes, with my ex husband, it's amazing how important it becomes to you when you get nothing, no response, no affection, no suggestions, no willingness to try something new, the list could go on, it was so many small things that it suffocated any love that there may have been.

Answer 8

Not fallen out of love, but got angry and frustrated while I was living with my ex-wife.

My ex-wife had the dominant character, and so as not to rock the boat, I used to generally accept her decisions.

But, that was in the past.

Love grows and strengthens with time and patience.  It is an attitude.  You have to look at, inspect at those things.  If you are going to consider all things and put them under the microscope, then it is not life, but an experiment.

I hope, you got the point, I was trying to make.

Everybody has their own imperfections, one has to accept and adapt accordingly.

good luck and god bless.