Has anyone ever felt like...?

Question

Your the one whos always inviting your friends places? I mean like that you always initiate everything, but your friends don't that much? I just kind of realize this was happening to me. Does that mean they don't really want to hang out with you or...? Idk. Does this happen to you and does it mean anything?

Answer 1

I'm one of those that never initiates anything.

And it's not because they don't want to hang out with you, they're just a bit too lazy to think up anything to do. Maybe they feel like they're bothering you too much. I don't know, there's a million reasons.

But believe me, if they don't want to go, they'll think of some way out of it.

I always do, so don't think that they just don't want to hang out with you.

Answer 2

OMG, you are in my head. I feel like this all the time, I always say to myself, "I'm not going to ask anyone to do a thing, until someone asks me for a change" Then , I end up initiating again. I also feel like you in that-do they want to hang out with me at all? I never know how to just not worry about it, but I do.

I say just wait until someone asks you-maybe subconsciously they don't realize its always you. Let them invite YOU!

Answer 3

I am the opposite....I always bug my friend to see they have any activities that I tag on...because they always come up with interesting things.

Answer 4

This happens to me too.  It's not that your friends don't want to hang out.  At least for me, my friends are just lazy.  Don't take it too personal.

Answer 5

My friends and I all usually take turns. If I'm inviting my friend over usually the next time we hang out she invites me over. I don't know, that's just how we do it. Also, there's this one friend I have, andevery timee her and I hang out her mom always leaves. Like we were at the ice rink and she just left us there. Weird. But yeah, that's how we do it.

Answer 6

i have that same problem but when act like they don't want to go out I'm like whatever n then they start initiating stuff

it gets tiring though

hang out wit ppl who are about something

Answer 7

OMG same with me! this whole summer long ive been inviting friends to water parks 3 times and theme parks 4 times and sleep overs 7 times and no one has invited me back. i get the vibe that they don't want to be friends  but its confusing because when they come over they act supper nice and then never invite me back.

im annoyed at them to.

Answer 8

I have a best friend who does that too.

I actually never asked her that, but its more of like she is the connector between friends, me and my best friends go to different schools. And I'm closer to one of them(lets call her Penny), Penny is probably the closest one to me since we keep in touch the most. And while Penny goes to school with all my other best friends, she has more of the chance to talk to them about when and where we always meet and such. So she is more of the cordinator when we hang out.

Maybe your friends are just used to you having you plan stuff and such. But if you really feel bothered by it, don't plan anything with them for a while and see what happens. And if someone speaks up about it, say well could you plan it this time? I'm busy with a lot of homework this week. Let me know where were going though!

Answer 9

Thise is always the case with me... I thinks it's because whenever they ask me to go out I'm either not in the mood or i just don't want to. But don't worry it's perfectly normal, you'll always have friends! Whether it means your the one starting the plans or not.

Answer 10

Yes. I've been that friend. I didn't really care because I knew they weren't using me and I just wanted to have fun. If they do a whole grip of activities then that's probably a reason. If they have a lot of problems that's another reason. But if you feel bad about the situation, talk to them about it in a nice way.

Answer 11

its happening to me right now.

with my friend.

i'm always inviting her places and she doesn't invite me anywhere.

its just that now she starts canceling all the time.

its like a one sided frendship. right?

so the answer to your question is yes.

Answer 12

that happens alot with me too..it does bug me sometimes that i have to come up with things to do..but i guess its just because they're lazy..i mean as long as they say yes that does mean they do want to hang out..

Answer 13

well in some cases it's not that they don't want to hangout with you or anything, maybe they are having probelems at home and they don't want you to see, or they are embarresed about where they live. i remember thats how my friend felt with our friendship and i explained to her that there are a lot of things around my house that i don't want her to be around. ask them about it and take whatever it is seriously if it's like that

Answer 14

it just means that they really don't know what to do to have fun and with out you they would be bored to death hay lifes to short you just happen to be the life of the party  keep it up your the kind of person people like to be around  

Answer 15

Yes, they ever feel boring with us. That is the problem. Try to be closed with her.

Answer 16

Play it cool for awhile they might've gotten dependant on you -in a goofy kinda way . "She'll invite"-or Ya know-Let them make the plans for awhile -give them a chance to see what they come up with. Take a break -you need one.      

Answer 17

Its always like that with one friend in a group. Im like that with my friends. Lol someone has to be the leader.

My friends are always at my pad and we never go there.  And if they say yes to you, they obviously want to hang out.