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Has anyone ever felt like they were born in the wrong place?

by Guest63376  |  earlier

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I was born and raised in Birmingham, Alabama.

All of my life, from the earliest that I can remember, I've wanted to escape, among other things, the heat. My mother died from a heat stroke in 2002 when I was 30, and it is just horrible here.

When I was small, every year when we went to the beach for vacation, I'd beg my parents to take us to the mountains instead, but they were very anti-north.

Now, at age 36, I have the chance to move anywhere. My husband spent 5 years in Alaska as a child and he would love to go back, but he has only childhood memories to relate.

Also, what we know of Alabama is very much like the stereo-types that you may have heard. (They came from somewhere.) Most people here are very poorly educated and socially annoying. I know someone will get angry because I said this, but atleast in the areas that we've encountered, it's been true. The majority are racist, consider reading to be "square", and are just cackling fools. Even my school teachers couldn't speak clearly and teased me for being a reader. They say things like "chester drawers" for your clothing, and "one-st upon a time", and "sit on the beench", and it's terribly frustrating. No one is perfect, but this is the rule, not the exception. Birmingham, Gadsden, Tuscaloosa... Have you ever seen the movie "Talladega Nights". It would've been funny if it weren't the nightmare that I live in.

For the past 36 years, people who have met me have said that I don't speak as if I've been here long. One time a guy even insisted unto the point of calling me a liar!

I have never fit in with even my family of origin. They called me "yankee". All they do is watch tv, believe whatever they see on tv, drink beer, go to the races, fish, hunt, and go to the beach. I'm an alien here. I've always hated it here.

Thank you

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  1. I left the south,too. If I were you, I'd take advantage of the chance to go while I could. Alabama is number 49 in education, followed by Mississippi at number 50. It's wonderful that you educated yourself and have probably blessed your children immeasurably by doing so.

    I agree with your heart. Leave the south behind.


  2. Yes, Yes, Yes. I know what u mean. Can't comment on where i was born, though. But there r a lot of uptight people there.

  3. I think it's possible to BE in the wrong place, but not be born in it, I was born in New York City and I think it's great(personal opinion) but that's just me. Good Luck!!!!!!!!!

  4. Why don't you leave?  Come to the civilized world, amongst your peers.  

  5. By all means, get out of there! I know what it's like because I had to visit Alabama. AFRICA HOT. And ridiculously socially backward.

  6. i felt that way but god put us in the right spot  

  7. Do what makes you happy.

  8. Oh, yeah. We home educated because Alabama public schools were pathetic. It certainly wasn't hard to outshine them. Lol

    But even with some major lifestyle modification, Alabama was just not for us. We still homeschool in our new state, and Alabama schools got us started down that road, so I guess we can look at the bright side in one respect?

  9. Funny. I'm from California and felt like that.  Ended up in Alabama for a spell. Back in California and now I feel like I have two homes.

    I'd seriously suggest that if you're not happy with your circumstances change them.  It sounds like you're in the perfect position to do just that right now.  You may not find what you're looking for, but you'll find something and will grow from it.

    I'd also just like to say that regional dialects and accents don't mean stupid.  People have accents because that's how they were taught to speak, so they learned just fine.  You may just be missing out on a stimulating conversation with the next Nobel Prize winner just because you met a few dumb ones with the same accent and harbor a misconceived notion.  

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