Has anyone ever lived with the person after broking up? I'm in love,but not him..HELP?

Question

My Ex boyfriend of 5yrs and I just broke up 2 months ago. We have a baby together. I act like everything is ok,but on the inside,i;m falling apart.I told him that the rule is that he can't see anyone or sleep with anyone,if he wants to live here.But, since i'm still in love with him. I;m always worring that he is seeing or talking to someone else. I always feel like"well he doesn"t want me ,so **** him"...but then i just feel so sad. I was going to marry this guy and even though we have had so many issues...I can't see myself with out him...As time goes on i feel more and more alone and with out him. Even though he's in the next room. He has cheated on me in the past. So everything is a mess,but the other thing is that his child is his life. I don't want to just take him away from his child, you know. So i was just wondering if anyone has ever gone through this or anything like it? And if so...what did you do or what would you do?

Answer 1

First off if hes been cheating get rid of him you deserve better than that!  As for the child, you don't have to keep him away from the baby just because you are not together anymore.  He needs to move out instead of staying in the same place as you.  You cant very well get over him and move on if hes right there the whole time reminding you of what you once had.  Your missing out on the right guy dwelling on this loser.  Let it go and find someone who can love you like you can love them.

Answer 2

What you need to do is take some time alone and really think it over about what is your next step going to be. From your description you are on the fence and you are not sure of what you really want.

Take some time alone be somewhere which can make you think and evaluate things over. Keep a clear mind and focus on whats best with you.

Thank will do you good and will chart up the next course of your life entirely.  

Answer 3

It is like living with a ghost. You rarely get a glimpse of them, you can't feel them nor have a conversation with them but you know they are there. What do people do when their house is haunted? They either get rid of the ghost or move to another house, leaving the ghost behind of course.

Answer 4

Well, my wife had a brief affair once, and things were very awkward, but that isn't the same as your situation.

I think the problem is that nobody has the courage right now to make the decision that should be made.  You two need to just break up and build a life where you can both be at your best and raise your child together in some kind of harmony.  It's hard, people get hurt when you break up, but the chaos and all the drama needs to end sometimes, right?  If you've given this your best shot, then it's over and all your doing is drawing out the pain.