Has anyone ever offended you by calling you big butt or chubby during pregnancy?

Question

to brunn- you are a sweetheart.. yes i agree if my grandma or anyone said that to me. man.. people just know what to say to make you feel all rejuvinated during pregnancy dont they...grrrrr

Answer 1

if it seems acceptable to say wow your big or chubby when your pregnant, then how come some people watch what they say to someone who isnt pregnant?

                    Because they know that you'll lose the baby weight once you have the baby.  relax, loosen up and just go with it.

Answer 2

Oh, I am sorry she was insensitive. I haven't had an adult offend me, yet, but I have had children make comments! I explained to a 4 year old boy that my tummy was getting bigger because there is a baby growing in there and he asked "Is there a baby growing in your butt too?". Yeah, thanks kid :). And my daughter, who is 4 as well, was kind enough to point out two weeks ago that my tummy is getting fat. The funny thing in our house is that our cat is pregnant and due any day now, and hubby and I call her fatso. She is huge for such a tiny cat. But if anyone called me that, someone who isn't innocent and cute, they had better start running!

Answer 3

That is because people are insensitive and act like they have never seen a pregnant lady before.  I'd rather be called chubby or big or told I am getting huge, than be touched, though.  People think they can just rub your belly....um, you wouldn't be rubbing it if it was a beer gut so step back!

Answer 4

WEll I had two of my closest friends, my mother and my best friend tell me that I will never get my figure back and I may as well except it. I was a athletic weight before hand with the flattest stomach out and a 4 pack... I have put on a total of 50lbs and they made me feel so down for weeks and I was crying all the time thinking that I will never be able to do it. They made me loose hope in myself.. But luckily my partner lifted my spirits and convinced me that I will be able to loose it and some lovely ladies on here told me some of their weight gain stories and how fast some of them lost it. So there is hope.  Don't worry, some people can be so insensitive when you are pregnant. We don't have a choice if we want to be the size that we are.. It comes with a healthy baby.

Answer 5

Ugh why do people feel it's okay to insult a woman just because she's pregnant? As if it's not going to be hurtful?  

I always hear about how I'm "carrying the baby all over" - which basically means I gained weight all over. I was not exactly a stick figure to start out with.  It is upsetting to hear fat comments when I already feel big and gross as it is.  

Would I dare walk up to someone and tell them they seem to be "carrying weight all over" - of course not! Where do people get off.

Answer 6

I think for some reason people think that its ok to make comments to pregnant people like that... Well its not... a few time already i have people come up to me and me ask if i was having twins and when i would tell the no they would be like are you sure it looks like twins... well yes im sure and thanks a lot for making me feel fat... not only that but recently the comments i am getting are complete strangers who feel the need to tell me that i look like i am about to pop... im not a balloon im a person and im not gonna POP im not even due for another 4 weeks. a few times people actually made me cry. im not a big person i only gained 25 pounds thats not bad... I dont know i think the worst comment i got was from my grandma who told me i must be allergic to being pregnant because my body doesnt know how to handle it. she said my face was swollen and my nose got huge... my face hasn't changed at all... sorry i felt the need to vent a little...

Answer 7

Holy cow I wouldnt even think that to myself within striking distance of a pregnant women. I cant imagine someone being that mean or insensitive. Although some people are just well Jerks wont be censored.  

Answer 8

I don't think you are being insensitife, infact I think it is down right rude and ignorance to insult someone wether pregnant or not!

I was expecting number six, very heavily pregnant and walking to the shop. I had all the other children with me, some in the pram some dandering along holding on the the handle. This pig ignorant man slowed his car opened the window and shouted ' Let me know when your ready for another' Oh mt God! I almost died!

Good Luck with the child :)

Answer 9

Geesh that would hurt my feelings too :( . You know I don't understand why people say these things when you are pregnant . Would they have the nerve to say something rude to someone who has lost a leg or in a wheelchair ? I know that's to the extreme but I think you know what I mean.

Answer 10

i wouldnt personnally like being called chubby.  i have gained weight (5lbs now 9 weeks) and i do feel fat, but it excites me.  i have a little person growing inside me yey.

i told my friend (who doesnt have kids) that i dont care about feeling fat - cuz im having a baby and thats more important to me right now.  she told me i was crazy cuz she would be disgusted to look fat if she was only 2months pregnant.  now that really offended me!!! she didnt say I was fat but she gave me a bad look.  so i told her off.

i have always been curvy and i can gain weight quickly, but i have always looked good.  i hated to be called fat.  

if someone called me 'chubby' now, i would take advantage of the fact that i cant control my hormones and tell the other person that they are hurting my feelings.  then you cant be judged on how you react.

any way, thats how i would react in your situation.

Answer 11

wow yeah I'd be really offended... to the writer who wrote relax well .... hey that's not very encouraging is it... I find it totally rude and don't try wondering why she said, like you said it's an old workplace, too bad she was rude, out and over! Don't let it tie in to your previous pain about feeling that you had not quite reached your eight goals, there are some good youtube videos on how to chanel negative thoughts into positive energy I would highly recommend browsing through some and finding a few that will help you get that bounce you need on low days! and congrats on the baby, are you looking into names yet :P  

Answer 12

Well people that know you and know you are pregnant have a tendency to make silly comments like that. With pregnancy hormones some women handle it different than others. With me, i was losing weight like crazy and getting my "body" back from my second child and then i ended up pregnant again and i too am 5 months and have gained like crazy and i have people do the same, i just shake it off or laugh along with them. You have to keep in mind they don't mean no harm, they're just messing with you! If someone calls me "chubby" i just say "yep, and have the chubby butt to go with it all"....or if i really know the person and they're on the heavy side i'll say "well it'll be gone in a few months, what's your excuse"....just kid around right back with them!! You can't take offense to what people say, if you did that all the time you would be miserable forever. It's just "words"....and although words can hurt your feelings, you need to think about are these people saying these things any part of your daily life to where you HAVE to listen to them, do you see them all the time, do they take care of your kids or live with you, do they affect anything your world revolves around...if not then why be bothered by it??? They aren't anything in your life that effect your life, so don't worry about it, you can walk away with them and never have to see them again if you choose. Some people make comments because they're insecure with themselves, just brush it off and know that they were joking and go on about your life!!!  

Answer 13

I work for a big manufacturer, so there are lots of people that I've seen around at work but don't really know.  The other day I run into one of those ladies.  She flags me down and says that I'm looking really good (I was 34 weeks at that point).  This cheers me up nicely!  She asks if I know what I'm having, and I tell her its a girl.  She lights up and says, "I knew it!"

At this point, I've heard about a million times that it's obvious its a girl because I'm carrying out in front.  I don't really believe in those old wive's tales, but I figure I'll humor her for the sake of being friendly.  I reply to her "Yeah, everyone's been saying that because I'm all belly!"

She smiles and says "Oh, no, I knew that there's a girl in there because your a$$ is so much wider!  You look great, though!"

At this point my head starts spinning, I'm completely confused and insulted, and muster a "well, thanks!  I'd better be on my way!"

Ugh.  Thanks a boatload, sweetie!

Oh, and when I was about 25 weeks or so I came back from an ultrasound all excited because the baby looked healthy and the ultrasound measured her to weigh about two pounds.  I tell my boss this, and he says "That's it?" and I reply, "well, she's still got a lot of growing to do!" and he snaps back "but you look like you've gained fifty pounds--guess its not all baby then!"

Oh, that made my day.  Thanks.  Yes, the baby belly popped out quite quickly, but 50 pounds?  Um, no.

Answer 14

I don't let it bother me I just say well at least I have an excuse whats yours?