Has anyone ever quit their job, left school, left a relationship in search for something more??

Question

Hi everyone,

Im thinking of leaving my bf of 6 years (long story pls dont ask), my family wants me to move home and go back to school fulltime, but im 22 and dont want to be like my friends who work a part time job while going to school full time and have no life! My bf and i have been travelling for the past 6 years,now we live in china and teach english. But im ready to leave him, and not ready to go home. I feel like I would be a huge disapointment to my family if I didnt go back to school, I just want to take my savings and backpack europe,or aussie and new zealand, or some place! for the next 3- who knows months. has anyone ever done this? any regrets??? any advice?? thanks

Answer 1

Sounds like you've had a really structured life up to this point and you want to be free and explore. I say have fun. Research the culture before you go, be smart, keep yourself safe, follow your gut, blah blah lol. If you aren't ready for school, and already know that, then why press yourself into it because it's what someone else wants of you? You are an adult and know what you need. When you go back to school ready and able to graduate you'll be get more out of it as well. Don't wait too long though :P

Answer 2

no

Answer 3

People do it all the time!! It's probably good to leave your bf because you guys started dating at 14 and people change when they become adults!

Answer 4

If I were you I would go back to school and finish your degree. Then, travel for a few months. The reason I say that is once you hit your mid-20s it's going to be harder to go back to school.

I've got a couple more years until I finish up college, but after that I also want to go travel for a couple of months.

Answer 5

If that's what you want to do, then do it!!! I am a single mother and I sold my home and moved with my young daughter (who  has special needs) from a stressful full-time job in polluted, overpriced London to a nice, relaxing part-time job and a lovely outdoor lifestyle in rural Australia.

I had to take my daughter's father (who lives in America) to court to get permission to leave the UK but I did it. None of my friends or family really believed I could go through with the whole move but 18 months later, I am sooooo glad I did.

Follow your heart and your instincts. If your family truly love you they will want what's best for you, and they will accept that it's what makes you happy that's really important. You can always go back to studying later when you're ready. And good luck!

Edit: It sounds to me like you DO have the courage. Buy the air ticket and go for your life, as they say here in Oz!

Answer 6

My advice:

Live your life for YOU, not for your family.

If something makes you happy, or if you have a desire to try something, I'd probably try it. We can only learn from our mistakes.

I've made some interesting decisions in my life, and I've travelled halfway around the world in my life (in varying degrees). It was fun, even though it didn't make my bank statement grow.

I learned a lot about myself and found out who I was and what I like about life. I'm 40 now and while I might have some regrets, I actually have more things that I feel good about.

The only way to have ALL the answers is to question everything...and life is too short for that. Sometimes, you just have to go for it....whatever "it" is.

No matter what, it's YOUR decision in the end, not anyone else's. You're the one that has to live with it.

All the best....