Has anyone ever tried the naughty time out mat from super nanny?

Question

I was just wondering if anyone had tried it and if it worked. I am at my wits end, and I am trying to find something that will really work with my 4 year old. She is full of tons of energy and I have tried everything. I have tried spanking (she laughs at me and sticks out her tounge), I have tried time outs in her bedroom, she does not like them but no matter how many times I put her in there she comes out and does the same thing again. She doesn't listen to her dad either so it's not only me. I put her in dance class so she could get some energy out but she is wild in there too. She was good for the first couple of weeks but once she got comfortable she started acting up (not listening to her teachers, inturrupting the other children ect.) I just don't know what to do anymore. She gets attention and dicipline ( I am not to easy on her or to harsh). She is the middle child, she has a 9 year old brother and a 2 1/2 year old brother, they are calm and mostly well behaved but my youngest

Answer 1

You should contact super nanny. then she could help you one one one.

My suggestions are actually from her shows, since they are usually helpful and very funny when the kids act up.  If your 4 year old doesn't stay in the timeout and keeps coming down after you put her there, its patience and determination on your part to keep putting her back there until her timeout is up (super nanny shows have shown it varies in time from 30 min to 3 hours)...*stupid for a 3 min timeout huh*  And don't show any caring like holding her, or giving her treats/rewards to quiet her down.

If spanking doesn't work, then I don't want to say use a belt, but it did work for me. lol...use different punishments such as "if you don't stop this behavior and acting right, there is no more *activity* (dance, playing with toys, tv)...etc.

Keep watching super nanny, because you learn alot about kids and you see first hand that you aren't alone and all the struggles.  Good Luck.

Answer 2

Well one of your children were bound to cause you a big headache. lol no parent is that lucky! lol

Tell her when she acts like that she makes you very sad and unhappy and you are going to cry. And if you cry you can't buy her any ice cream(or whatever)...lol I tried something similar like that to my 3 year old daughter and niece and it worked!!! Girls tend to feel sorry for you when you are sad. Does she like baby dolls? Have her take care of her baby dolls. Or maybe you can try to roll play with the dolls and show her how she is acting (dunno if that would be a great idea but at this point it's all worth a try once).

Try having a special day with her..Make it REAL special...and when she acts up take the day or hours away from her. I only warn once after that it's gone. Don't give to many warnings and you have to have a strong eye contact with her...an intimidating look! good luck

Answer 3

I've been a nanny for over 15 yrs here in NYC. I really wish that they would rename the show. I've never gone on a job and made my employers feel like bad parents. They need to call the show parenting 101. I happen to bump into Jo on Broadway a few years back. I was with my husband. I told her while her show was informative it really needed to be renamed.(My husband later told me he couldn't believe I had said that to Jo) While Super Nanny makes it look like its going to work it may not. She testing you, and may even be getting a kick out of your reaction. Time out don't always work for all kids. Some children respond to having things taken away of course with several warnings. I  make sure they make eye contact with you. I a firm voice say what it is they are doing wrong, warn them that it is unacceptable. If they choose to continue the behavior there will be consequences for it, and they will not like it. Be firm. If you take something away take it away. Do not give in!!!. Other wise this method of discipline will NEVER work. Good Luck

Answer 4

Personally, the time out mat has never worked for my daughter. I I send her to her room and every time she comes out I drag her back in. (not literally) I then start taking stuff away. No movies for that night, no art stuff for that day, etc. Spanking never worked for my daughter either so that is not an option. It is sooooo hard to stick to my guns sometimes, but we have to show our kids that THEY are not in charge. YOU and your husband are the parents. I am not saying this to criticize you, I know it is difficult. Good luck!!!!

Answer 5

Time out has probably been the most effective form of punishment I have used.  I use it with my 13 year old daughter - yes,13!  I also have spanked on occassion.

We don't use a stair or special matt; just the kitchen chair.  They have to sit there for a 10 to 30 minutes and not talk, move around or do anything.  Time out an option that I adopted to avoid spanking.  I have sent them to their rooms before, but that is not nearly as effective as a time out chair.

Good luck with it.  And one final note.  If my (then) four year old ever stuck her tongue out at me after a mild tap or two on the butt, she would take the second spanking a little more serious - that you could guarantee!