Has anyone every been adopted that you never seen or knew what your mom look like girl only?

Question

when i was 9 month old i got adopted my real mom couldn't take care of me at all and i was wandering if someone in here is dealing with the same problem as i;m dealing right now i want to meet me biological parent and stuff because i want to know why she left me and stuff like that so i need a lot of answer if your going through this girl only please i need someone to talk bout this with me please

Answer 1

You are not alone and there are loads of adoptees who feel just like  you

How old are you sweetie?

Answer 2

Every single human being has a need and a right to know the true story of how they came to be where they are.  Every single human being.  Not just kids who grow up in their natural families, but every.single.human.being.

Why do human beings study archeology, digging up civilizations from long ago?  Why do human beings study history?  Why do human beings study anthropology?  

It is human nature to know and understand our past.  Why should that be any different for individual human beings?  We want to know!  We NEED to know!

You have every right as well as a NEED to know your history.  We are not just random points on a map.  There is a road before us and a road ahead of us.  How can we know where we are going if we do not know where we have been?

Search!  Find!  Connect!  Do whatever it takes to reclaim your past, deal with it, own it, so you can go forward.

I know how it feels to look in the mirror and have nothing reflected back.  It's agonizing.

Answer 3

i dont know

Answer 4

I  was also adopted and didn't know what my mom looked like until I was 35 when I finally searched for her and found her. I understand - it is hard hard hard to look in a mirror and not know where you got your eyes from or your hair or anything at all. I felt lost and alone - disconnected from everyone. I'm sorry you are going through this. Please know it is perfectly natural to feel this way - everyone wants to know who they look like. It's hard to grown when you don't have roots. Those that are not adopted simply cannot understand this - the smallest things are taken for granted.

Have you talked to your adoptive parents about this? Maybe they could contact the agency and see if there is a picture in the file. How old are you? When you turn 18 you could also contact the agency yourself and also register on some reunion sites.

Answer 5

I was adopted at birth. My biologiaca mother was a good person (so i hear) but had a drinking problem and slept with a diff guy pretty much every night! I would love to meet her, but my adopted mother promised her family that she would not tell them that she had a baby and gae it up for adoption. I am extreme;y greatful for the life and the family that i have. i believe it was part of God's plan for me. BUT, not a day goes by that i dont wonder about my family. What they looked like, how they are, if my mother thinks about me too. so yea... i understand!

Answer 6

im so sorry but im not the kind of gurl that can help you..but maybe your mom do that cause she has a big reason and someday you'll gonna find out why...more pray,,god will help you this..