Has anyone found someone one on here to adopt from?

Question

I see all these people wanting to give there babies up. I want to know if anyone actually has. Please email at [e-mail] if you wanna share in private!

Answer 1

Never have actually met someone off of this website to put a baby up for adoption..

Answer 2

Can i add my 2cents?

It would be INSANE to adopt from anyone you met on here.  People make full LIVINGS pretendint they are pregnant, bilking loads of money off of naive, hopeful adoptive parent, and then disappearing.

Answer 3

What?  In this category there is some women who are considering adoption, but rarely is there a question soliciting for potential adoptive parents.  And, if there was I would assume it would be deleted by Yahoo for breaking the community guidelines.

Now if you were pointing out the daily infestation of potential adoptive parents either posting a direct question begging for a baby, or by direct answer to someone in a crisis pregnancy, I'd have to agree with you.

Answer 4

I placed a child a few years ago and there is NO way I would have even considered doing it through a website. If you are wanting to adopt you should contact a reputable adoption agency that would then match you with an expecting mother.

I'm not sure exactly what all you know about adoption but 90% of domestic infant adoptions in the US have some sort of openness. The agency I placed through is called Abrazo and their website is abrazo.org

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'Not giving her up, giving her more':

Couples look at open adoption

By Terry Murry, of the East Oregonian

June 16, 2007

Domestic adoption is moving out of the shadows and into the sunlight as more couples choose open adoptions as the course they want to take on the road to parenthood.

In open adoptions, the birth mother has decided adoption offers the best future for her child. She selects, from applications with the adoption agency she chooses, the adoptive parents she wants to raise her child. In many cases, the adoptive parents are present at birth.

The adoptive parents enter into a legal agreement with the birth mother that sets out the number of face-to-face visits she'll have each year, and can even set out the number of written communications the adoptive parents will send to the birth mother each year.

Proponents of open adoption feel it helps the child understand from the beginning of the birth mother's love for her child and her desire to give the infant a better life.

John and Brenda Bonk of Pendleton found the odds of having a baby the natural way were stacked against them. They faced a long and possibly expensive road to childbirth when John issued the wake-up call.

"He said, 'Is this about being pregnant or about being parents,' " his wife said.

Brenda Bonk had heard of the open adoption process and was familiar with Open Adoption and Family Services, Inc. of Portland. The couple was heartened by the low disruption rate of open adoptions, only five percent as compared to the average of 20 percent for the more traditional adoption.

"I liked how supportive they are of the birth mother," John said of OAFS. The couple began the involved training process the agency offered, and said they were impressed every step of the way.

As with most true stories, their path was littered with snags and delays, but eventually, after four false alarms, the Bonks were contacted by the agency and told that a birth mother had seen their "Dear Birth Mother," letter and wanted to know more about them.

The Bonks traveled to meet with the birth mother and were braced for disappointment, but instead found excitement.

"On our first meeting she turned to me and said, I want you to be the mommy," Brenda said.

"It seems like we just connected on a personal level," John said.

"We give both sides a good night's sleep to think about it," Angie Lunde, the OAFS counselor and mediator for Eastern Oregon and Washington, said. When the sun came up, nothing had changed.

The three parents-to-be worked together to name the little girl - Kendra Nevaeh Allicyn Bonk, and when their daughter was born the Bonks were waiting. They had worked out a birth plan with the mother, who insisted they be the first ones to hold Kendra.

The birth plan allowed the Bonks not to worry, John said. A copy of it was faxed to the hospital by Angie Lunde, the OAFS counselor and mediator serving Eastern Oregon and Washington.

"It could not have gone better, " John said. "It fit how we imagined it was going to be."

Kendra has been at home with the Bonks for three months now. She's visited her birth mother and the Bonks have sent her photos. Right now, the birth mother is in transit, so the couple is out of touch. However, they're confident that she'll come back in to their lives.

The Bonks praise open adoption saying it means Kendra will face life with knowledge and confidence, not uncertainties.

"We won't have to sit down and tell her she's adopted," Brenda said. "She'll always know."

The Bonks said they also like open adoption because the child is the focus of the process.

"She said, I'm not giving her up, I'm giving her more," Brenda said of the birth mother.

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    Adoption: Talking about it in a positive way

    Positive adoption language is important to everyone from the birth mother, to the adoptive parents and to the child.

    ÃƒÂ¢Ã‚€Â¢Say "planning an adoption for a child"; not "giving up" a child.

    ÃƒÂ¢Ã‚€Â¢Say "birthmother" and "birthfather"; not "real" or "natural" mother and father.

    ÃƒÂ¢Ã‚€Â¢Say "birthchild" or "child by birth"; not "real" child or "natural" child

    ÃƒÂ¢Ã‚€Â¢Say "parenting" the child; not "keeping" the child.

    ÃƒÂ¢Ã‚€Â¢Say "unplanned pregnancy"; not "unwanted child"   ""

Answer 5

It is in extremely bad taste at a minimum, and illegal in some cases.  Unethical in all cases.

Soliciting for a baby on the internet from total strangers all over the world, who may be anything from pedophiles to scammers, perpetuates the abuse that befalls children, birthparents and adoptive parents alike.

Answer 6

I would not trust from either end of the spectrum.  You cannot trust something this big to over the internet meetings.  How do the adoptive parents know if it is not a scam?  How does a birthmom know she is not giving her baby to sickos?  No one knows.  Clearly there must be something wrong with both parties if they are posting on this site "wanting a baby" or "giving baby up".....If it is not a sick joke, they need to go through the proper channels: agency, lawyer, state/foster system.

Perhaps they are looking for a quick fix.  A way to take out the middle man., as they say.  But I highly doubt the people are aware of the legal risks of such acts.