Has anyone fully recovered from adult attachment disorder?

Question

Has anyone fully recovered from adult attachment disorder?

Answer 1

I am 26 and was adopted at birth.  I am close with both sets of parents now.  And i have 3 kids of my own.  So it is very possible to get over things and lead a normal life as long as you take the time to do the self meditation and figure out what you need to make yourself feel better about it all.  Because if you had asked me as a teenager what i thought about adoption i would have told you i hated it with a passion!

Answer 2

nope....its gettin better though..i still have my insecurities about not being good enough...which is weird...my adopted mother wrote me when i was in my 20's and told me i had radd...reactive adjusment disorder..something..so i looked it up...there are four types..i had all four..said she wished she could have helped me growing up had she known what was wrong and that there was something wrong with me she would have..bs...she obviously knows now and the last ten years no contact....she blamed it all on my birth mother...i think she is crazy...all i know about me is this..i met my birth dad this past summer along with my sister and one of my brothers...and it was the greatest feeling in the world to know i belong somewhere..the other great feeling for me was putting flowers on my mothers grave...because i know where she is now..and i wondered for years...the peace i got from knowing i belonged to someone ..and hearing my oldest brother tell his story...its so much like mine..thinking we were going to die at 28 like our mother did..was amazing...my sister nothing like that my brother i was adopted with ..thought adoption was something everyone went thru and actually has a relationship with our adopted mother...everyone is different..but i take mine one day at a time...at least my kids know now that im not weird.

Answer 3

Yes.  I adopted two children.  One is recovered and lives a normal life with a good marriage and two children and loves everyone in her family extended and immediate.  She doesn't panic over abandonment issues.  She's just a normal every day young woman who is living her life just like everyone else.  On the other hand her sister never recovered and will live her life suffering from the lack of bonding and nurturing that is required by any infant to learn how to love in return.

Answer 4

I'm not certain anyone is ever "fully recovered" from anything, diagnosed or not.  The reason I say this is because part of the human condition is that everyone has difficulty with various things, and usually carry some of it throughout live.  If this weren't the case, people would attain perfection prior to death.  

That said, I was relinquished at 13 months, hung in foster homes for a bit, then adopted at 2.  I'm so glad I was, because I wouldn't have wanted to remain in foster care throughout  my childhood.  My adoptive parents knew right away there were issues, but in the 1960's not much was understood.  The best they had to offer was some medication, which had unpleasant side effects, so my parents took me off it.  

I remember once my younger brother (not adopted) was annoyed with me, and asked Dad why I did some of the things I did that were quite uncommon among the other children.  He told him he needed to remember that his sister didn't have a stable family situation as a very little girl.  He did get that.

The symptoms did follow me into adulthood, and made my early adult years difficult in many way.  Even though I had my Bachelor's degree by 20, was married to my medical student college sweetheart a few months after graduation, and had a career, I still had problems related to this.  

It was not until later, when attachment disorders were becoming more understood, that I began to get treatment.  I finally opted for a very intensive day program with a group called "New Life."  I took some time off of work and enrolled in the program.  It was very thorough.  The therapy included lots of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, which was very,  very helpful.

I now feel much more secure in my life and have been able to attain a sense of peace that is with me a great deal of the time.  It's not to say I don't have my times, but that is true of everyone.  My life is stable, I have a good family and lots of friends.  My relationships now are stable, long-lasting and fulfilling.

I, along with the professionals, my husband, family and friends, feel I have recovered greatly.  I still enjoy having support, however.

Answer 5

Yes I have. I takes persistence and consistent self correction with yourself.  4 years now.. and going strong..