Has anyone had they chidren taken off them by socail services?

Question

i haven't had my children taken away from me i am looling after my sisters children they have been placed in my care coz she trying to live a single life drinking smoking and dateing anyone so i have got the children

Answer 1

haha i love how you asked the question but no i dont have kids but yes i was taken away from my mom twice and she felt terrible about it but now she's smoking crack so i dont think she really cares. good luck i hope you don't lose your kids if you havent or whatever but yeah i would assume it would get lonely when your kids randomly move out

Answer 2

Most children taken have long and twisted stories when taken.  My son's bmom had two children and was pregnant with a third when a "friend" called social services on her because of neglect.  When they came to check, her two children were upstairs by themselves in the bathtub, one a baby.  They also found drugs in the house, but the bmom said they were her boyfriends, but they still took the kids.  They were given to the grandmother who was told that the mom could not have contact outside of the scheduled supervised visits at the office until she finished her parenting classes and was clean (because she failed her p**s test).  Now during this time she gave birth to her 3rd child but social services left that child in her custody because she moved counties and at that time the state she lived in did not communicate.

Low and behold, the Grandma's boyfriend molested the little girl and when SS found out they said he must leave, but the Grandma picked the boyfriend.  Then they found out that the Grandma was allowing the mother to take the children so then they were taken from her and given to a Great Aunt.  The Great Aunt raised them for almost 2 years but when they went to court the mom lied and started slamming the case worker and that she did everything right, for some unknown reason the judge gave the kids back.  Within 6 months they were taken again for neglect, abuse and the mother was drinking and drugs.  This time all kids were taken, her oldest 2, the one she had during the first ordeal and the new child.  Four children in total all by different fathers.  Her oldest was in the system for almost 5 years before closure.  

My issue is I understand you they want to unify the family, but the parents should have a time frame to get better and the children should stop being jerked around.  If they failed to take their classes or get better within 12 months, then I think the system needs to start looking for stablity for the children.

Answer 3

I have because my ex hit my son and then said it was me now I am with a better man, I'm getting married in 2 weeks time and I had my son second son in December (my first was taken off me in 2006 and was adopted last year, I saw him last on the day after my 19th birthday). Now my new son has been taken off me after what my ex did and I am having to fight as hard as I can to prove I could never harm my son.

Answer 4

No, not me.

Answer 5

Sorry. I used a comdom.

Answer 6

no why?

Answer 7

My Sister-in-Law just had her kids taken from her by Social Services. Years of neglect and poor choices finally caught up with my wife's sister and the two kids. All three failed a drug test performed by social services.

The kids went to Grandma'a house and are wards of the state until Mom proves all problems have been corrected.

Answer 8

No I didn't have anyone take my children off of me....

I have become the mother of 2 out of 5 children that were taken off their mother.... That kind of thing happens when you drink and use drugs while pregnant or don't feed them--or keep them safe....

I am sorry if you have had you children taken into care from Social Services...  Generally they will give parents a plan--and some steps they need to follow in order to get them back.

Be sure to do what they tell you needs to be done.... Show up for ALL of your Visits clean and able to care for them while you do visit.... It is serious when Social Services comes in and puts children into a Foster Home....

Talk with your case manager---ask what you need to do and even if it is stupid or insulting or something you don't understand get help and do the steps they ask you to do....

Don't be angry with Social Services call them and tell them you want to work the plan you want to be a better mother and you want to give your children a safe and good home. They will help you if you have a positive attitude--they will make it hard on you but it should be you know---they don't want kids to get hurt or not have a safe home....

Most people who have children that end up being adopted don't understand that they must to the steps to get them back and there isn't a lot of time to think about it before things are over and the children are removed and placed with another family....

If you know you can't meet their needs or if you are relieved they have been "taken off" then the best choice is to call the social worker and let them know that maybe it is best this way and you want your children to move on to a family that can give them what you cannot....

Answer 9

NO BUT I STILL HOLD ON TO THE HOPE

Answer 10

My aunt had 2 children taken off her. My uncle has had 13!!  

My aunt was very distraught when they took her two kids of her but they were both adopted into very nice families. She wasnt taking care of them properly so it was her fault by the end of the day!

As for my uncle he some anger problem so for the childrens safety they have took every child he has ever had away and they have all been adopted.

I come from a very weird family lol.

Answer 11

No, but I have two children living with me now who were.  They needed to leave the person who was raising them.  It was a horrible situation and is tragic for everyone involved.  The kids are struggling, and confused.  They are glad to be in a safe, warm home, but they are sad to be away from their parent.  When they have fun, they feel guilty.  They worry about so many things. Basically, they are traumatized by what has happened to them.

If you were to ask their parent what happened he would say they were "taken", "stolen", "stripped" from him.    Not really accurate.  He lost them.  He let them down. He neglected them.  I hope he will get better, and I respect his role as their father. But HE is not the victim.  The children are.

Answer 12

yes.. I had a drug problem. My daughter was in foster care for 15 months when DFCS tried to take away my rights. That was a big enough wake-up call for me. I knew I had to do something DRASTIC to get my daughter back. So, I checked myself into an 18 month treatment program. DFCS still tried to take away my rights, but the judge saw something in me and decided to give me another chance. I have now been clean for 2 1/2 years. My daughter was allowed to stay with me in rehab (it was a women's ministry) and I got lots of help with parenting and just re-learned how to live. It was a great experience and I wouldn't change it for the world. I still deal with problems that were created in my daughter because of my actions and I am very aware of the impact my drug use has had on her even though she was very young. My story is nothing more than possible hope for anyone out there that has gone through or done the things I have. Meth is an epidemic in this country, but there is hope. You just have to be willing to do whatever it takes to get your kids back & TOTALLY change your life.

I am now an office manager, and I have a great future ahead of me, with my husband,daughter, and step-son. I didn't realize what I had until I almost lost her.

Answer 13

Nope - Dont have Kids...

Answer 14

I don't have kids but I plan on being a good mom so I don't think that will happen.

Answer 15

no but two of my aunts are foster parents that have dealt with very angry children, some shy and some starved for love.  In my opinion if they take your kids it is most likely the best thing for the children.

Answer 16

Anyone who files a false report is committing a felony. If they list themselves as "anonymous", they you need to request the audio of the phone call. If you recognize the voice, you can prosecute. I feel that if someone is going to report someone, they must leave their name. If the allegations prove to be true, then they can remain "anonymous", if they are unfounded, they should have to release the name to the person that they reported so they can be prosecuted. Ninety-five percent of the cases prove to be false. Be sure you ask before they leave what they are going to put in their report. You want to know if you've been ... I don't know the proper term, but find out if the case is closed. Then you'll receive a letter within 2-3 weeks stating that. Always keep it. If you don't receive it, BE VERY NICE AND CALL THE SOCIAL WORKER AND ASK IF THEY WOULD MAIL IT. If you have to, go down and pick it up. NEVER be rude or angry with them.

I have known many people who have been turned in. It's a sport for angry, vindictive EX's and friends. I've even known of one girl who was befriended by a group of ladies at her church. She had JUST had the baby, was seperated and didn't have any help from her family. They came over, told her to go get some sleep, closed her door, and then cleaned up her apartment, which was a mess, but she had just moved and had a baby. These were very wealthy women. They went through her drawers and then called social services and made claims that she was on drugs. She had alot of samples from her Dr. for depression, but never took them, but kept them in case she thought she needed them. This is how alot of women who want a baby try to get them. Nothing ever came of it.

It's not uncommon. If you're going through a divorce, you can bet your EX will call in. I didn't realize how common that was. The courts really frown on that.

Anyone who thinks they are immune from having this happen to them is living in "lala" land. I've seen it happen to people from all walks of life.

ETA:

I misread, I was thinking that someone falsely accused you or someone else of abuse. In which case I stand by everything I said, but if they took the children away, they have to have evidence of wrong doing. I think that in most cases when children are removed, it's for a good reason. I hope you're family is able to work things out. I am glad the kids are safe.

That's sad for everyone, but the children really suffer the most. That breaks my heart. I've never personally known anyone that has had their children taken away

Answer 17

I work in care - these children will need lots of love and understanding , they will not understand why their mother doesnt look after them, you will also need lots of help - are you getting it? Make sure you work with the Social services and keep using any help they can give.

I wish you lots of luck and hope it all works out - hopefully your sister will get help or see sense in the very near future x

Answer 18

i have never had social services ever contact me. but i did report someone 12 years ago... i saw a man hit his wife while she was breast feeding her infant and then he pushed over the chair his 5 year old was sitting in.... i reported it through a 1-800 number ans was told i didnt have to leave my name or number, but they gave the guy the number that showed up on the caller id and he tracked me down and kicked in my front door... so that just shows that id dangerous to be brave enough to stand up to abusers.....