Has anyone had to wean a toddler in order to conceive?

Question

I have a 21 month old son who still breastfeeds. We've been trying to conceive for a few months now with no success. I have got my periods back but I don't know if I'm ovulating - my OPKs say I am but my BBT's say I'm not. I'm guessing that I'm not. But I also know that most doctors wouldn't allow you to take something like Clomid whilst breastfeeding because of the risks so I'd have to completely wean my son from the breast.

I'm feeling worried and depressed and very despondent, I did want my children close together but its just not happening and I don't know what else to do - I'm nearly 37 so I know that my time is running out and I'm really panicking. We took 18 months to conceive our son so I was kind of expecting to have problems the second time around as well.

My son is very attached to breastfeeding and I have no idea how I'll go about weaning him, he already cries and gets very upset if I refuse him a feed. Its looking like I'm one of those who can't get pregnant whilst breastfeeding, however. I feel very down about this. Can anyone offer me any support or advice?

Answer 1

no hun but it did corse hives in my child that i was feeding when i got pregnant strange a

Answer 2

So when he turns 21 and he gets a little thirsty is he still going to get some? Lay off the breast feeding Mama. give the boy a glass.

Answer 3

Why are people so uninformed when it comes to breastfeeding??  The benefits go well beyond the first year health wise.  The WHO (World Health Organization) recommends breastfeeding for the first two years.  The US is one of the few countries that wean at a year or earlier.  It is so much better for babies and toddlers than cows milk, it is created specifically for our babies whereas cow's milk is created for baby cows.  Nursing a baby/toddler is obviously different than nursing a teenager, get a grip.  

OP: Sorry, I just get so offended by people who are so clueless and uneducated as far as breastfeeding goes.  I only have one child so I can't help as far as getting pregnant while nursing.  I agree that you should try for a while longer and then if you aren't successful you'll probably have to wean.....  

Answer 4

Not being mean but your son should have been off the breast at a much younger age when he could do a sippie cup like about seven months the benefits of breast milk are far past the time. Now it is more of a security thing which will be harder to break. Have you talked with a pediatric doc? You may have to reward him and motivate with other things to get him weaned.  

Answer 5

it took me 5 months to conceive. my toddler was 13 months old when i got pregnant. i didn't wean. i am now tandem nursing. you do not need to wean if you are getting regular periods. give it 6 months of trying than consider weaning. i doubt it will come to that though.

Answer 6

this is one that you need to decide for your self

as you are struggling to conceive then it may be a good idea!

but when you make the decision you have to stick to it, stopping breastfeeding can  be hard for both of you but you have to be strong!

i wish you all the luck in the world

ps you have done very well with breastfeeding and you have no reason to feel guilty about stopping.