Has anyone noticed that when you give a girl what they say they want they get tired of it?

Question

I had a girl who complained how guys played games and were neglectful to her and told me that she 'wished a guy would call as much as they wanted'. Same girl ended a relationship because I 'smothered her' (called 1-2 times a day, told/wrote her how much she meant to me on a regular basis). Another girl complained about boys being obsessed with her and stalking her, so I called here every 4-5 days, and I didn't tell her I loved her for over six months, and then she ended it because she thought I was neglectful. WTF?

Answer 1

Perhaps it was because you went from one extreme to the next.  Why did you not just be yourself?  Perhaps  you spent too much time trying to be the guy you thought she wanted instead of the guy you really are.

Answer 2

Just be yourself and stop trying to be what other people want you to be. If a girl is going to like you and stay with you she needs to know who you are, not who you think she wants you to be.

Answer 3

well, I guess you are the last one to learn this, so listen carefully and tattoo this on your arm. What girls want, and what they say they want are two totally different things.

Answer 4

Be the way you want to be, don't respond to women that complain if men aren't more like this or more like that, they aren't worth the trouble.

Answer 5

Rio is correct

Answer 6

Stop dating stupid girls.

Answer 7

Every woman wants something different.  There's not ONE set of rules/guidelines that will apply to ALL women.  Some women want to be called several times a day and constantly receive love notes and such, whereas some women want much more space and aloofness on your part, and there are many women in between.  You just have to figure out what kind of woman you are dating, what she wants from you, and then go from there.

Answer 8

I agree with Rio. It is bound to get old if you continuously do the same thing over and over again. With time, the same thing will slowly lose appreciation. You have to alter how you express your feelings. In example to this: a guy can tell a girl he loves her several times a day, but that's really not enough. The guy must express his feelings beyond words. He must establish a better relationship by showing her he loves her. There are many ways. Calling is probably the least effective reflection of a guys emotions. It doesn't take much to dial a number. It takes much to buy flowers and schedule dates.

-Dr. Love.

Answer 9

Your problem is that you drifted to the opposite extreme. Everyone appreciates a happy medium.

Answer 10

Because she’s a woman who really doesn’t know what it is she wants in a relationship, much less how she wants to be treated by her partner. She’s more than likely in between the ages of 19 to 25 maybe 26 at the most; Can probably have any guy she wants’ but still feels like she’s not attractive. So she seeks that attention from men to reassure herself that she’s beautiful (instead of believing it herself); which leads to her not being assertive in what she expects from her man while spawning  several failed past relationships. She's emotionally scared and unstable, can never make up her mind (which leaves you hanging on a cliff). And she's ensure with her self, her looks (trust me she is), and falling in love.

She probably chooses “losers” as “boyfriends” (pretty much anyone that will show her attention) and then wonders why she can’t find anyone decent. And when she does find a decent man, she doesn’t know what to do because she’s not used to having one. My advice to you would be to stay away from girls like this. You need to stop looking at the physical in a female, and start getting to know her for who she is mentally. Because her mental state of mind is what’s going to determine the emotional health of your relationship. For some strange reason, all the good guys seem to be attracted to the beautifully crazy girls! Tell me, why is that? Why do some of you guys girl for the girls who you know are emotioanlly unstable?

Answer 11

this is why i wish i was g*y.

Answer 12

Everybody gets tired of something they want when they get it..It's like wanting a chocolate cake really bad and you get sick of it after eating it everyday.

Or, maybe they were just looking for an excuse to end the relationship.

Answer 13

You're not being your natural self! As long as you're trying to 'impress' someone or behave the way you think they want you to behave, you will not give them a true impression of you.

Just be yourself! And anyway, couldn't they call you once in a while?

Answer 14

Sounds like your trying too hard buddy!!  Make the girl feel like your not so available to her...sounds silly I know...but in the beginning of a relationship...you want her to feel like your a challenge.  Not that your there at her beck and call.  She can get that from her BFF.