Has it been long enought o get married?

Question

I am living overseas and have spent the last seven months with the girl of my dreams. I leave to go back to the states in November. Is it too soon to ask her to marry me? I love her very much and don't want to leave without her. I have been in long distance relationships and they are hard enough when it is a few hundred miles, let alone almost 5000, so I would like to put a ring on her finger before I leave. It just seems fast to me. Is it normal to have some doubts and what ifs? I appreciate any advice.

Answer 1

I don't think it's fast at all. If you love her and she is truly the girl of your dreams, I would go for it. You may never find what you have together again. I know a couple that got married after knowing each other  a couple of weeks. They are great together and have been married 17 years. Best of luck!

Answer 2

There are only two things that I have learned in my life...

1. Life is too short

2. There are no gaurantees

I was scared to death when I got married (i thought that i was ready)

And, I was horribly frightened when I found out that I was going to be a father, but those are two of the greatest days of my life....

LIFE IS TOO SHORT, ALL WE CAN DO IS WHAT MAKES UP HAPPY!!!

Answer 3

That's hard to say, only you can make that type of decision. It is normal to have doubts and what ifs. How about a promise ring instead of an engagement ring, that way you make a promise she is the only one for you and you her and you really want her in your life but still allow you more time to get to know her.

You don't want to rush and find out later she isn't the girl for you and I know emotions can tell a person this is the one and nothing can get in the way of listening to those emotions but common sense says one mostly likely will discover things they never knew if they jump the gun.

Answer 4

NO ITS NOT TOO SOON,,,GO FOR IT,,,AND THATS WHAT THE RING IS FOR,,,SO LETS SAY YOU WAIT ANOTHER 7MONTHS BFOR YOU GET MARRIED,,,AND THIS WILL GIVE YOU BOTH TIME TO SEE IF YOU REALLY WANT TO COMMIT TO MARRIAGE,,,BUT IF YOU REALLY FEEL IN YOUR HEART SHE IS THE ONE,,I WOULD MARRY HER NOW N TAKE HER WITH ME,,,,GOOD LUCK....PEACE

Answer 5

7 months.. thats short

i guess iif u know her so much then y not

Answer 6

Seven months is a bit fast, but if you feel you really need to.  Ask her to marry you and have a long engagement.  The other benefit is that the fiance' visa process is relatively quick compared to the visa for a spouse.

Answer 7

MARRY HER!

Answer 8

as long as u love her than go for it! no regrets remember?

Answer 9

Get engaged and make your intentions known. She can come stateside at a later day.

Answer 10

If you are truly in love with her and want to spend the rest of your life with her,  then go on ahead !

Answer 11

7 months is not long enough to really get to know someone.

Would you really want to make the choice to stay with someone for the next 60+ years based on only 7 months of being with someone?

Have you lived together?

Have you had any fights?

Have you discussed children?

Life goals?

What does your family think?

This is a huge step!!  Make your choice wisely.  If she loves you and you love her..... it will last over the separation of miles.  If it doesn't.... it wasn't meant to be.

Answer 12

The best advice that I can give you is to see a marriage counselor.  That might sound odd but it's the hottest new thing right now for couples to put their compatibility and skill at relationships to the test.

You might be thinking that seeing a therapist in any setting is only for crazy people.  This couldn't be further from the truth.  In modern times, even if you come from a simple and extremely moral and religious background, people are a lot more complicated than our parents and grandparents were.  This makes relationships a lot more complicated.

This counselor will not judge you or tell you what to do.  He or she will simply ask questions and let the two of you make the decision together.  "what are your career goals?"  "how should children be disciplined?"  "how do you feel about cooking and cleaning?"

Love isn't enough anymore.  After two divorces, if I ever did it again, it wouldn't be before testing our compatibility with a marriage councilor first.  

And the question of long distance comes down to finances.  If you can't afford a bus ticket to see each other several times a year, forget it.  With 5000 miles we're talking plane tickets.  That's also a lot of travel time so if you only have Saturday and Sunday off, you're going to lose most of that time traveling.  So if you can afford the flights and get a ton of 4-5 day weekends, then maybe.

Answer 13

that is plenty of time....if you love her.  it really is.

Answer 14

It does not matter if its one day or 1 year if she's the one don't let her get away!

Answer 15

Go For It!!!!!!