Has it ever happened to you...?

Question

..not to be able to avoid behaving in a way that hurt yourself...

Do you remember that song that said: oh Mandy, when you came you gave without taking...but I sent you away, oh Mandy...

Answer 1

I totally relate because when I was younger I had a wonderful boyfriend and treated him so bad.  I used to be so terrible that I actually made him cry when I dumped him for his caring actions.  I was a young alcoholic and started experimenting with drugs.  That was back when I was 19.  13 years ago I decided through both intervention and my desire to change, entered a tough year long treatment for addiction. Next month I will have been sober from alcohol 12 years and drug free 20 years.  I went to visit my home town a couple years ago and looked him up to apologize for my behavior.  He was just glad to see me and was happy for my sobriety.  He even introduced me to his wife.  I went home feeling good and without guilt.  I think you may be going through a phase.  As long as you are recognizing it you have made a first step.  I just got better with time and experience.  My problems were not caused by addiction it was just an addition to my attitude.  I hope I was of help

Answer 2

Oh ye! I do it all the time when I want to close a relationship! I don't know why I cannot get myself to get the problem head on, but I start to put in action all different kind of behaviours that hurt myself, together with the other person involved. Of course I secretly aim to send my partner away by making him sick and fed up of me. It works, but you don't know how hard and painful it is for me! Join my club!

Answer 3

Yep. It made me sad. Then I remembered my name was not Mandy and cheered up a bit.

Answer 4

erm..........what?

Answer 5

Self-destructive behavior is quite common. It can be used as a coping mechanism when things get too much, or as an way to drive someone away, such as in a relationship, without facing the problem head-on.

It is generally defined as self-sabotage, often stemming from a feeling of low self-worth. If you or someone you know is experiencing this behavior, try focusing on building self-esteem.