Has someone ever said this to you...or have you ever said it about someone else?

Question

My husband and I had twins last week and my mother sent out baby announcements. She called me today saying how she's recieved numerous phone calls from her friends who were completely shocked that I have children for I was never a big fan of kids, hated babies and didn't really express interest in becoming a mother. I also don't have a "Mommy personality". Now I have 4 little ones.

Were people every suprised that you became a parent? Have ever said it about someone else?

Answer 1

It has not been said about me, but people say it all the time about my husband. His parents friends, his friends parents, his friends, everyone was shocked when he became a Father. He was the typical party guy and even though we married at 21 we really didn't settle down until I became pregnant with our firstborn. The comments don't bother him, he actually thinks it's funny. I am very proud of the man, husband and father he has become.

Answer 2

Yup! I know all about not having the "Mommy personality" and got the comment, "I can't believe you have kids." all the time.

I was never a kids person. I didn't really find babies cute or have an interest in having some of my own. I had them because my husband wanted them so I thought, what the heck.

My life didn't really change when I had kids, unlike a lot of my friends. I didn't baby proof the house, buy kid friendly furniture, my family room didn't turn into a play room, I never bought a "family" car, never went to places that targeted kids, never got the "motherly voice" etc. My kids never watched Barney or go to a place like Chucky Cheese. I never used striked systems or a reward calendar for behavior. It was listen or you're in big trouble.  They became an addition in my world, not a way of life. They learned to respect the furniture, to play with each other when I went to the beach w/ friends who didn't have kids, play with their toys in the rooms etc... and because of all of this, I got the, "I cant' believe you have kids." comment daily.

I never looked down upon anyone who parented differently than I did or changed their life when they had kids. It just wasn't the way I wanted to do things. My kids are now 18, 16 and 13 and I think they turned out pretty good.

Answer 3

My family was kinda surprised that I had a baby because I have never really been good with kids, or even liked kids for that matter. Now, I love my little boy. I love to play with him and even to just watch him sleep. I still don't like dealing with other people's children but I adore my little one.

Answer 4

NOt about me but I have said it.  I usually say that I am surprised because of things the person to me.  Now I don't try to judge people so much cuz its not a cool thing to do.

Answer 5

My grandmother has said that she's surprised I have had a child b/c I always said I wouldn't as a teenager.  She has also said that she is surprised that I'm "so good" with my daugher.

This offended me b/c I'm 28  and no longer a self centered teenager and she doesn't see that I'm a grown up now I guess.  Some people refuse to see that you have changed.

Don't let it get to you.  People will start seeing you for what you are- a mommy who loves her kids :)

Answer 6

people were not surprised that I had a daughter, 18 years ago, they were more terrified that I was having a child.. I was a little loopy and they thought that I might forget the baby someplace and not care...

I changed their minds fast..

Answer 7

I have never had that said to me but i did kind of think it about my cousin. I loved my cousin dont get me wrong but she was the type to love the lifestyle she was leading and it just didnt seem like kids could fit into that. If your not around kids kind of like to party or not really around them very much i can see how people might be shocked knowing that you have children. But you lifestyle can change her did i think she's a real great mom and i know she loves her children but in the beginign that was hard to see from my point of veiw how her lifestyle change and she made that change herself was something i was very proud of. I think that's why they were alittle surprized

Answer 8

I don't think anyone ever said that about me.  But I've said it about someone else.  (Not in a mean way) but I used to work with a girl and never thought she was a kid person, and now she has 7 kids and she home schools them.  I never thought she was the "mommy" type either, but you never can tell.

Answer 9

We say this about my sister all the time, but we joke about it.  She does not have a mommy side to her at all.  When my daughter was born, she wanted nothing to do with my daughter because she did not want spit up to get on her or slobber or anything.  My daughter is now 6.5 months old and her and my sister are best friends, no joke.  Everytime I go there my sister takes her away.  She shops for clothes for her so she can be "in style" (I guess my Walmart and Target brands are not good enough lol).  The have a great bond now.  She is almost 21, so she's still young.  Some people just dont like kids until they hit a certain age, or they meet the right person to have a family with.

Answer 10

My family always says they are amazed that I am actually a good mother...i am not sure they actually get what they are saying.

Answer 11

I got pregnant at age 23 (last year) and it was NOT planned. My friends were absolutely shocked when I decided to keep the baby and kept saying that I didn't seem like the maternal type. I never really liked babies, thought little kids were kind of annoying and was really into the party scene. They gradually watched me as I quit smoking and drinking and began preparing for the baby with my husband. Now I have my daughter and my whole world revolves around her. She's the sunshine in my life, I cannot imagine what I'd do without her. They have been so shocked at how much I love being a mother and how naturally the instincts kicked in, but they all adore my daughter and couldn't be happier!