Has the media put fantasy in place of Commitment in wedding day arrangements?

Question

Went to a Wedding the other day with 400 people present. Did the bride and groom really need to have that big of a count of guest?

Answer 1

Well, if they know and are close to that many people, I don't see what the problem is. Perhaps they both came from large families or they were blessed enough to have a lot of friends. There's nothing wrong with a couple wanting a large guest count to celebrate their big day! Besides, if they can afford it....

Answer 2

I bet she'll wonder why once she starts writing out her thank you notes!!

Hahahaha...

Seriously, I don't think that's such a big deal. Maybe they both have large families, and lots of friends besides...good for them that they have so many people to help them celebrate their wedding!

Answer 3

If they want. Why is it that you are judging them? If they had the money to feed 400 people then that's how they spent their money. Divorce is taking place of commitment.

Answer 4

Why Not?

So many people assume that big weddings are a trend now. They're not.  When my future mother in law was married over 30 years ago, they had a HUGE wedding.  She told me something like 400 people were there.  Of course, they were both Italian and had huge families.  It was customary to invite everyone you knew and all the family to share in your special day.

In today's culture, that's consider bad for some reason.  Not sure why.   Also, now a days, you'll still see certain cultures having HUGE weddings because that's what's done in their home countries.

So, really the media hasn't made this into a big thing.  Weddings have always been big to do's IF you had a large family and lots of friends.

My parents had 100 something guest back in the 80's.  But, my aunts had HUGE weddings because their husbands came from cultures where you invited everyone and their mother.

If it's someone background to have 400 guests, how can you tell them they're wrong?  That's like denying and misunderstanding their culture/traditions and background.

Answer 5

I don't think it has anything to do with the media, necessarily.  Our culture now seems to think that you have to show everybody else up like "I'm better than you cause I got better STUFF".  The same applies to weddings.  It's like, look how much money we have!

It's the same with houses, cars, clothes, jewelry, pretty much anything.  I mean, why do people have 7000 sf houses when they are a couple with one child?

I always feel for the little brides on here that ask the questions about how to have a budget wedding. Some of them even sound apologetic.   In my day (ok so that day was a long time ago, lol), you went to the wedding, took a gift, had some cake and punch and wished the couple well. Now, it's like a frappin' movie production.  

We are spoiled, spoiled, spoiled, and we wonder why kids are so bratty.

OK - so thanks for letting me get on my soapbox.  Overindulgence is my pet peave.

OK I knew I would get thumbs down.  People can't stand the truth.

Answer 6

Try to look at it from their point of view. Perhaps they have a large family. Or lots of friends. Or important work colleagues who would have taken offense it they had not been invited. Any way, each bride has her own image of what her special day will be. Maybe your two ideas of what a wedding should be may not coincide... but when it's your day, do what makes you happy. And if, for some, that means 400 people and a big to do, then good for you- Do what makes you happy. The more the merrier.