Has there ever been a time when you were more than?

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uncomfortable being a woman?

OK this was just recently..Like 2 nights ago. My sister and I had just gotten off the bus and we were passing by this guy's house...he and his bunch are pretty pleasent to talk too normally. Well they were all pretty drunk and sitting outside. And they invited us over to talk..Fine..I didnt mind. Like I said they are normally nice to talk too..even when they drink.

The main guy wanted to get a little touchy feelie with me...So he gave me a hug...I didnt hug him back..1 because i was holding bags and 2..I didnt want too. So he gets done and I pull away and he looks right at my chest and loudly declares " YOU GOT SOME BIG BOOBIES!"

I already felt uncomfortable enough...but that made me feel...really really uncomfortable. I just left.

So has anyone felt really uncomfortable being a woman?

And please dont tell me that it was my fault for going over there in the first place. As i said..normally he isnt too bad..even drinking. And im honestly polite.

Answer 1

I've never felt uncomfortable being a woman, although I have had my femininity & physique objectified.

Don't feel bad-it was not your fault. It was his behavior that was inappropriate.

Answer 2

"Boobies"? LOL. I suppose enough alcohol can bring out the 10-year-old in anyone.

I'm mostly uncomfortable with my female body when talking to my younger male relatives. 10 years ago they were smaller and weaker than I, and now they're taller, heavier and stronger, their faces have more bone definition than mine and their voices are deeper. Somehow I feel as though I'm physically childish in comparison, as if I'd stopped growing.

Answer 3

I'm sorry that happened to you and of course it wasn't your fault. Men know that women are often worried about not seeming rude and often use it to overstep boundaries - so don't worry about being rude to a man (ever!). I think you're probably uncomfortable being a woman when your around proto rapists - but that's natural. If that was someone I knew that would be the end of our relationship but please if you continue to interact with him make sure you call him on it.

Answer 4

it wasn't your fault that he opened his big mouth and said something so dumb. maybe he was just drunk and his inhibitions were lowered, or may be he was trying to show off for his friends...or a little of both.

i've never been uncomfortable being a woman, but comments like that always get me a little peeved. it is awkward and it makes you want to avoid those types of guys. so, do just that: avoid him and guys like him. and if he asks you why you're avoiding him, tell him. odds are, he doesn't completely realize how creepy he was being and maybe you should give him a heads up.

Answer 5

I know exactly how you feel, but you can not become one of them, Do not let their cave man mentality get to you. You are too smart, don't trust anyone, email me if you need advice. :)

Answer 6

I have never felt uncomfortable being me. But something similiar happened to me and I didn't mind because I love myself and my body! Do not feel bad.

Answer 7

That guy was plainly being a assss hole and any of the others who cheered him on are like wise a asss wipe. do not ever go there again is my advice to you.

Answer 8

I hate that - it feels so bad, and degrading.  I'm sorry he had that power, to make you feel uncomfortable about being a woman.  

It can be the kind of thing that helps shape you as an adult woman, that continues to figure into who you are - I assume from the content of his comment that maybe your body attracts comments from stupid people more than just this one time?

So it's good to reflect and think about how you want that to effect you - will it make you stronger or weaker?

Answer 9

No, I've never really been uncomfortable being a woman.  If something like that happens again, run your hand over his crotch and loudly declare "YOU GOT A LITTLE p***s" and maybe even laugh loudly.  That will probably be the end of it.

Answer 10

I don't think it is because you are a woman, I think that you are just a normal private person and for someone to say such a rude and bad mannered thing about a private part of your anatomy is unsettling. Like some men, there are women that would love this kind of banter, but most civilised people do not.

Answer 11

I think if you were a man in this situation you would STILL be uncomforable.

I'm just sayin....

Answer 12

No, I've never felt uncomfortable being a woman.  If a guy is being a jackass, I feel sorry for him and really glad I'm not in the same percentile chain as he is.