Has your Boy-friend or Girl-friend Husband or Wife ever hit you?

Question

did you take them back why?

Answer 1

i would never put up with it - my mother & her oldest sister were beat all of their lives first by their mother and then by a man - for many years before they finally got away - dont do it - stay away from him or go to a womans shelter

What is spousal and partner abuse?

Spousal abuse covers a wide range of acts, from explosive violence to chronic behaviours like belittling. It can involve physical, sexual and/or emotional abuse. There are many types of abuse and degrees of severity. Spousal and partner abuse can be committed by a spouse or exspouse, a current or former common-law partner, a current or former girlfriend or boyfriend or a person in a dating relationship.

Physical violence can involve a threat with a fist or object; being pushed or shoved in a way that could result in injury; being slapped, hit or beaten; being hit or attacked with an object. There may be no obvious physical injuries, or there may be bruises, cuts, broken bones, internal injuries, disfigurement, disablement and even death.

Sexual assault may be part of a physical attack. Sexual acts within a marriage or intimate partnership must take place with consent. There is no “right” to sexual relations.

Emotional abuse can include threats and intimidation, demeaning and degrading verbal and body language, control and isolation, subordination and humiliation. Victims may suffer serious loss of self-esteem and experience feelings of shame, anxiety, hopelessness, depression and terror.

Abuse is a crime

Spousal and partner abuse is a crime. The victim may think that she or he somehow provoked the abuse but the abuser is responsible for his or her own behaviour. To harm or threaten to harm another person is against the law under the Criminal Code of Canada.

An effective legal response to spousal violence requires coordination by all parts of the criminal justice system. The Criminal Code and the Canada Evidence Act provide protection for victims as well as sanctions for offenders. Prosecution policies and guidelines ensure that charges proceed in court. However, the police are usually the first step in the legal process and the major point of contact in spousal assault cases.

In incidents of partner abuse, the Royal Canadian Mounted Police follows a pro-arrest policy. Police called to an incident are responsible for restoring order, protecting victims, investigating and gathering evidence — which may involve arresting or taking into custody persons involved. If the investigation finds reasonable and probable grounds that a crime has been committed, appropriate criminal charges can also be laid.

The RCMP policy defines spousal assault as a “criminal act of violence or series of acts which causes injury to a spousal or common-law partner.” Even if criminal charges are not laid, individuals can apply for a peace bond or restraining order to prohibit their partners from threatening or harassing them further. In cases of spousal and partner abuse, the RCMP can lay charges under Criminal Code provisions pertaining to assault and sexual assault.

For example:

An assault is the intentional use of force on another person against his or her will (e.g. touching, slapping, kicking, punching). It is also an assault to threaten to use force. If a person attempts an assault but was prevented from doing so, he or she can still be charged with attempted assault or attempted sexual assault, depending on the circumstances.

An individual may be charged with sexual assault if he or she forces someone to kiss, fondle or have sexual intercourse. This charge may also apply if a person is kissed or touched in a sexual way without his or her consent (no sign of physical injury or abuse need be present).

During a sexual assault or attempted sexual assault, if a person uses a weapon (real or imitation) or threatens to harm someone else (e.g. a child), the charge of sexual assault with a weapon may be laid. This also

applies if a third party is involved (i.e. if the offender is with another person or persons who commit sexual assault).

An individual may be charged with aggravated sexual assault if the victim is wounded, crippled, disfigured or brutally beaten and/or his or her life endangered.

The Criminal Code also provides for the charge of criminal harassment, including the offence of “stalking.” (For more information request the RCMP pamphlet “Stalking — It’s Not Love.”)

Answer 2

No, never.

I would not take a man back that hit me.  It just escalates from there.

Answer 3

Yes, an ex hit me in the face. That's why he got three broken ribs with a baseball bat, I don't take any ****.

Answer 4

Wrong section.

Answer 5

Well - he threw a coke can at me, and busted my forehead open!  Yes I took him back, because I saw that it scared him to the point that he will never ever hurt me again.  

Answer 6

Absolutely NOT!

My husband has never hit me and I have never hit him!

I have never been in the situation so I can't say whether I would take them back or not.  My initial thought is Heck NO but until your in the situation its hard to say.

I would be worried about my child being in danger.  Usually someone that hits will do it again.

Answer 7

Why is this is the pregnancy section??  

Answer 8

no but if he did i wouldn't ever take him back id have him thrown in goal

Answer 9

No way and if he ever did I would kick his azz out! I would divorce him too! No man is worth that and it will never get better!

Answer 10

my boyfriend would never lay his hands on me unless he was hugging me or caressing me...if your man is touching you to hurt you, this is a bad sign...even if you have a kid with him this is not a safe life style...love is not hurt...and if he says he loves you he is lieing, and if you love him it could be true but you can leave him if he gets in your face with anger and violence

But if this is just a question to see peoples opinions then i would never take back a man who hits me

Answer 11

he has never hit me and if he did i would kick him out and get a divorce

Answer 12

No he never has, and i really believe he never would but if he did he would be gone, no questions asked

Answer 13

Stay as far away from him as you can. Violence only gets worse and by then you are too far into it and it becomes very dangerous.

Answer 14

Odd place for this question to be, but yes he has....but I hit him first, and I feel like if you're man enough to hit a man, you're man enough to take it right back!