Has your relationship with your significant other change since you had kids?

Question

If so, in what ways? For better or worse?

Answer 1

When you have kids everything changes. There isn't as much time to spend with ur partner yet you can always find time in a healthy relationship.

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Answer 2

Luckily for me and my partner it has changed, but for the better. We have been together since teenagers (14 years together) and kids has been the next step. Now we aren't as focused on what we are missing out on because the kids get what they need, not us getting what we want.

Answer 3

in some ways better but not really worse. we have our moments when we agree on things and then there are times when i wanna smack him up side the head..lol. but for the most part i think that my fiance and i are a great team, he listens to what i have to say and the same when it somes to his opinion.

Answer 4

Relationship is a very subjective issue nowadays. It depends on the couples as a parents in this case. One assume having children is the peak of their relationship, but others might feel it as a burden.

For me, my relationship doesnt shake at all with the emergence of a child. The child is the gift from god that will color my relationship further. It is all about responsibilities... :)

Answer 5

I don't want mine to change so we aren't having any!

Answer 6

Relationships are always changing. Wether you have kids or not. Every act and decision in life changes who you are and therefore changes your levels of commitment and your relationships. Mine has changed in many ways during the last 13 years. We are less romantic, we are less inhibited and we enjoy each other on a deeper level. 13 years ago we enjoyed the s*x and it was a major basis of our relationship. Now intimacy doesn't have to mean s*x. Our conversations are more in depth and serious. We don't worry as much about sounding stupid or hurting the others feelings by not agreeing. We can openly communicate much better than we did without children. When my husband came home injured I realized that the commitment we have for each other has grown tremendously. Its not as easy to pack up and run home when you have a family and a vested interest in each other. All around I would have to say my relationship has changed for the better in every way. Instead of playing house and having a bed mate I have a soul mate. And I have learned no matter what happens to him he will always be my soul mate.

Answer 7

We had some rough times especially with my first child. She wasn't planned and so when I told him he was a tiny bit upset and we didn't talk for a week but he opened up to the idea.

With my second we spent less and less time togther because I was caring for a 5y/o and a newborn. We eventually broke up (and it wasn't the kids that did it, we weren't right for each other).

Now I am seeing this new man who I have been for 1year and I am 10weeks pregnant with his child! And I have two girls Shannon (11) and Molly (6).

Answer 8

It has and for the better. My husband and I have known each other since we were 9-10yrs and I remember kids at school and at the park saying "Brynn and Matt are gonna get married! They're innn looove!" and us screaming back that we weren't. And look at us now...

We got married very young and had our son very young as well. Prior to him being born, we didn't take our relationship  seriously and acted more like kids than adults...mainly because we still were lol.  Any problems we had were worked about by screaming, slamming doors and driving away in the middle of the night. We did what we wanted when we wanted and didn't care what anyone else thought.  When we got married, I'm pretty sure EVERYONE thought we wouldn't last longer than a year. We just expected the Lovey Dovey phase to last forever. Then came Dean...

When our son was born, things changed big time. We grew up quickly, started working out any problems or issues we ran into in our lives by talking and listening, became more responsible and started acting like "adults". We had less time for each other with work and a kid.

I still get butterflies though when I look at my husband, just in a different way. No longer is it because he looks "hot" standing on my front porch or because of a love letter he wrote for our 8m anniversary. Now it's over the sight I see when I  peak out the back slider door into our new backyard and see him and our 5yr son playing in the pool together or jumping on the trampoline. Or when our son comes into a room during a thunderstorm in the middle of the night and falls asleep on my husband's chest within 5 seconds of being in our bed. He then will pull me close to his side and when I think he'll say some romantic line, instead I'll hear, "The little guy gets the snoring thing from you." Or when I come home and see a babysitter in the family room and he grabs my arm and goes, "We have 3hrs! Lets go see a movie that isn't rated PG!" It's the most exciting sentence!

We are less romantic and don't do spur of the moments anymore. We don't find quirks cute. We're WAYYY past the "You hang up! No you hang up!" phase as I like to call it...but thats how it always goes. Every relationship changes and I like the way mine's going.

Answer 9

Oh......my husband is such an amazing man! Our relationship has gone through ups and downs........probably like most marriages. We have been married almost 24 years (next month) and I already had 3 children from a prior marriage. We then had one together after 10plus years of marriage. He has remained strong and steady through it all! I just adore this man!!! I am blessed!

He left today for a business trip so I miss him a bit tonight!

KITKAT** I love your answer!

Answer 10

Brynn D - i liked your answer so much :) my first thought after i read it was that "you must be very fond of books and reading" :) it just shows, it was so well written. and yes, i later saw that u do :)

i think thats a really good answer 4 this q.

all the best :)