Have I done the right thing?

Question

I split with my ex 2 years ago and it was messy and left us both very bitter. I have since moved on and am happy now. I bumped into my ex whilst I was with someone else and she looked furious. This actually made me really sad seeing her like that. I care for her and hoped she would me happy now. Anyway I sent her a mail just to say hi and asked if she was ok and hoped we could put it all behind us and be happy with each other. I would like to belive their is no bad feelings between us both. What do you think she will make from my mail?

Answer 1

Well, all relationships end up forming soul ties, an emotional bond with another person. They need to properly put to rest so that both parties know what was wrong, instead of making assumptions as to why the relationship didn't work.

When you still have any feelings for another that have never been put to rest you can not fully give your heart to your new love.

The way forward is to speak to your new partner, let them know what is going on, and even if you have to visit the old partner with your new partner with you so they know what has been said, done and feel included in the process...(builds trust and shows a willing vulnerability to be all you can be with your new partner), and talk it out, clear up problems and false conclusions and break it on a clean note, with no false expctations, like your ex wanting you back and hoping that you were just going to return one day...help them move on.

Relationships are messy, but they are worth it in the end.

All the best

Mel

Answer 2

if shes a good person.

shell try to be friends.

if shes still bitter shell try to make you jelious, sad, want her

back type thing its the way we girls work.

Answer 3

Maybe it isn't that she has bad feelings towards you or that she's angry with you. It may be that really she misses you and is still in love with you. Seeing you with someone else probably hurt her more than anything. Yall broke up for a reason and I don't hink you should try to stir anything up again. Might just not be meant to be. This is where people mess up in relationship issues. They keep wanting to go into the past and try to mend things...try to make it work...when really it wasn't meant to work out. It was meant to just be left alone! I say move on! Don't look back...Look forward!

Answer 4

She will think that you are gloating, proud or showing off.  Sorry about that, chief.

Answer 5

I think you are not over it. Clearly, you just want to sleep with her. This is why she is furious. I would be too.

Answer 6

she probably get ur points and see u as a friend

Answer 7

Maybe she'll find some closure from seeing you out with someone else.    Anger comes before acceptance.

Answer 8

i think you really showed her that you care. and she will ike that!

Answer 9

Sounds like you still care for her. She'll probably think you still have feelings for her.... always be careful contacting the ex, especially if you're in a new relationship. Could cause problems with the new one...

Answer 10

I think you made her more pist but it's all her not you

Answer 11

I think if you are in another relationship and it's okay with your current lady...it's all good.

Just be honest and open with everyone, you'll be okay :)

Answer 12

It doesn't matter. You did the right thing for innocently caring.

Answer 13

you clearly haven`t moved on as you say.if you have forget her concentrate on now not then.

Answer 14

It depends on the woman. Some of them are capable of carrying on a friendship after the relationship is over. Some are not. What is it that you want from her? Are you seeking some closure? Reassurance that you made the right choice?

Regardless you opened a door. It is up to her whether or not she slams it in your face or walks through it. At least you will find out what type of person she really is. Good luck.

Answer 15

u still have feelings for her.

u guys r meant to be.

go back to her

Answer 16

you did good. at least you did not totally ignore her leaving her in more pain. i guess, it was also brought upon by the way you ended things up with her. maybe she will ignore your letter or she might nag on you about it and about your past relationship.

a piece of advise, talk to her. befriend her. tell her things that made you who you are because of her, but of course not to the extent that she'd be expecting anything from you in return. just make her feel good about herself and that she'd find someone better than you. (not that you're not good or something. just remember that you've already moved on, you're just helping her to move on as well)